A sister does not want to marry

Fatwa ID: 02475

Answered by: Maulana Jamal Ahmed

Question:

A woman once used to commit sins like masturbation and pornography. But she understood the severity of these sins. She left those sins and made taubah. Now she does not fear to fall into the haram. Now she does not want to get married because she wanted to marry someone but she could not. So she does not want to marry anyone else. If she does not get married ever, will she be sinning? She will take necessary steps to stay away from haram.

Answer

بسم الله الرحمن الرحي

Firstly, the aim of marriage is not to satisfy our lust, rather it is a Sunnah (practice/tradition) of our prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him). The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) has said “Nikah is from my Sunnah. Whoever does not practice my Sunnah, he is not of me.” Sunan ibn majah, vol. 3,  pg. 567, hadith no. 1846, Darul risalah al alamiyah.)

Among the aims of marriage is to guard our chastity and to have children. There are many benefits of raising righteous children in this world and in the hereafter.

Secondly, Samurah raḥimahullāh (may Allāh have mercy upon him) says that the prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) has prohibited us from practicing Tabattul (Refraining from marriage so as to totally engage oneself in worship). (Sunan ibn majah, vol. 3,  pg. 568, hadith no. 1849, Darul risalah al alamiyah) In other words the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) has prohibited monasticism.

In normal situations it is Sunnah Muakkadah to marry, and one will be slightly sinful (blameworthy in the eyes of Allah) if he/she does not marry. If someone has extreme level of lust then it is wajib to marry. 

قَوْلُهُ: سُنَّةٌ مُؤَكَّدَةٌ فِي الْأَصَحِّ) وَهُوَ مَحْمَلُ الْقَوْلِ بِالِاسْتِحْبَابِ وَكَثِيرًا مَا يَتَسَاهَلُ فِي إطْلَاقِ الْمُسْتَحَبِّ عَلَى السُّنَّةِ وَقِيلَ: فَرْضُ كِفَايَةٍ، وَقِيلَ وَاجِبُ كِفَايَةٍ وَتَمَامُهُ فِي الْفَتْحِ، وَقِيلَ وَاجِبٌ عَيْنًا وَرَجَّحَهُ فِي النَّهْرِ كَمَا يَأْتِي قَالَ فِي الْبَحْرِ وَدَلِيلُ السُّنِّيَّةِ حَالَةُ الِاعْتِدَالِ الِاقْتِدَاءُ بِحَالِهِ – صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ – فِي نَفْسِهِ وَرَدُّهُ عَلَى مَنْ أَرَادَ مِنْ أُمَّتِهِ التَّخَلِّيَ لِلْعِبَادَةِ كَمَا فِي الصَّحِيحَيْنِ رَدًّا بَلِيغًا بِقَوْلِهِ «فَمَنْ رَغِبَ عَنْ سُنَّتِي فَلَيْسَ مِنِّي» كَمَا أَوْضَحَهُ فِي الْفَتْحِ. اهـ.

 (قَوْلُهُ: فَيَأْثَمُ بِتَرْكِهِ) لِأَنَّ الصَّحِيحَ أَنَّ تَرْكَ الْمُؤَكَّدَةِ مُؤَثِّمٌ كَمَا عُلِمَ فِي الصَّلَاةِ بَحْرٌ، وَقَدَّمْنَا فِي سُنَنِ الصَّلَاةِ أَنَّ اللَّاحِقَ بِتَرْكِهَا إثْمٌ يَسِيرٌ

Only Allah knows best.

Written by Maulana Jamal Ahmed

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham

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