Fatwa ID: 02506
Answered by: Maulana Maruf Ahmed
Assalam o Aliykum, My question is about women modesty (parda). Alhumdulillah I am doing parda and not attending mix gatherings, including walimas etc. Everybody in my in laws told me that in complete parda you can attend that sort of parties. If you are not going to attend this sort of things Allah will ask you about huqooq ul ebad. One thing I clear that my husband is pretty much happy about myself his parents also. But the problem is that everybody teach me about rights of relatives and all. I visited when someone is ill, or other things as well but not attending mix gatherings. Kindly clarify me about my behaviour in accordance of Islam.
بسم الله الرحمن الرحي
It is important to remember that obedience to Allah and His Messenger precedes your dutifulness to others. It is not permissible to disobey Allah to please others.
The Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) said:
“There is no obedience to the creation if it involves disobeying the Creator.”
Although it is important maintain the ties of relatives, you should not compromise your principles just to satisfy them. Therefore, you should not attend gatherings when you are sure that it will consist of impermissible practices, even if it leads to some of your relatives being upset by your refusal to attend.
Furthermore, you stated that your husband and parents are happy with your stance. As obedience to them is also obligatory, consider it a blessing that they are understanding.
At the same time, if events like walimas and other family gatherings are being held with complete segregation then you should try to attend as this will come under maintaining ties and in the case of walimah, fulfilling a Sunnat Muakkadah act.
Only Allah knows best.
Written by Maulana Maruf Ahmed
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham