Divorce via text message

CategoriesDivorce [681]

Fatwa ID: 02261

Answered by Maulana Jamal Ahmed

Question:

I have received further information from the brother so to clarify 

please disregard my previous message.

Salaam Shaykh,

I have a very important and urgent question. A husband and wife were 

arguing over text and the conversation went like this:

Husband: I'm so ******* fine

Wife: Shall we continue?

Husband: Divorce

Husband: Divorce

Wife: Say it

Wife: I don't care

Wife: Literally done with you

Wife No way am I taking this

Husband: Then just **** off

Husband: You crazy *****

Wife: Say it so I can

Husband: Ok

Wife: Believe me I want to

Wife: Am dying to

Husband: Divorce

Wife: I'm not going to go through the shit you put me through

Wife: Ok now that's done – I have Quran in my hand as well

I have read their conversation and spoken to the husband who said 

'divorce' to get his wife off his back and said it after they had argued 

over the phone. He knew if he said it a third time the message would 

sink into his wife's head to leave him alone for a few hours and stop 

arguing. So to emphasise his point but not for an actual divorce he said 

it a third time knowing this would stop the argument. Further to this as 

he was typing the first 'divorce' he said to himself 'In Shaa Allah 

divorce.'

Is this divorce valid? Could you please back to me as soon as possible 

either via email or phone.

Jazakallah

Answer:

Bismillah

Waalaikum salaam

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (radiyallahu ‘anhu) reports that Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhiwasallam) said:

There are three things which, whether undertaken seriously or in jest, are treated as serious; Marriage, divorce and taking back a wife (after a revocable divorce)

(SunanTirmidhi, Hadith: 1184, Sunan Abi Dawud: Hadith: 2194 and Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith: 2039)

Based on the above hadith, if someone uses a clear and unambiguous word like divorce, then divorce will take place whether he intended to give talaq or not.

If someone gives talaq but says ‘inshaallah’ immediately, then talaq does not take place. But he has to say inshaallah so that someone close to him can hear him, if he says it in his mind, it has no bearing on the talaq.

When the wife said “No way am I taking this” and the husband said “: Then just **** off”. This statement of the husband could mean ‘get away from me’ or just a swear.  If he meant to give talaq with this word then one irrevocable talaq will take place.

In your case the husband said ‘divorce inshaallah’ then he wrote the word divorce three times all together, so the verbal talaq did not take place but the written three talaq took place.

(وَلَهُ وَلَا التَّلَفُّظُ بِهِمَا) أَيْ بِالطَّلَاقِ وَالِاسْتِثْنَاءِ (قَوْلُهُ أَوْ عَكَسَ) أَيْ كَتَبَ الطَّلَاقَ وَتَلَفَّظَ بِالِاسْتِثْنَاءِ (قَوْلُهُ أَوْ أَزَالَ الِاسْتِثْنَاءَ إلَخْ) أَشَارَ بِهِ إلَى قِسْمٍ رَابِعٍ، وَهُوَ مَا إذَا كَتَبَهُمَا مَعًا فَإِنَّهُ يَصِحُّ أَيْضًا وَإِنْ أَزَالَ الِاسْتِثْنَاءَ بَعْدَ الْكِتَابَةِ فَافْهَمْ.

raddulmuhtar, vol. 3, pg. 368, pub. darulfikrbeirut.

 

وَحَالُ الْغَضَبِ وَالْخُصُومَةِ يَصْلُحُ لِلشَّتْمِ وَيَصْلُحُ لِلطَّلَاقِ فَبَقِيَ اللَّفْظُ فِي نَفْسِهِ مُحْتَمِلًا لِلطَّلَاقِ وَغَيْرِهِ، فَإِذَا عَنِيَ بِهِ غَيْرَهُ فَقَدْ نَوَى مَا يَحْتَمِلُهُ كَلَامُهُ.

badaiassanai, vol. 3, pg. 107, darulkutub al ilmiyah

 

 (قَوْلُهُ مَسْمُوعًا) هَذَا عِنْدَ الْهِنْدُوَانِيُّ وَهُوَ الصَّحِيحُ كَمَا فِي الْبَدَائِعِ. وَعِنْدَ الْكَرْخِيِّ لَيْسَ بِشَرْطٍ (قَوْلُهُ بِحَيْثُ إلَخْ) أَشَارَ بِهِ إلَى أَنَّ الْمُرَادَ بِالْمَسْمُوعِ مَا شَأْنُهُ أَنْ يُسْمَعَ وَإِنْ لَمْ يَسْمَعْهُ الْمُنْشِئُ لِكَثْرَةِ أَصْوَاتٍ مَثَلًا.

raddulmuhtar, vol. 3, pg. 368, darulfikrbeirut.

Please click on the following link to understand the ruling of divorced given via text message:

http://daruliftabirmingham.co.uk/husband-forced-to-text-three-talaqs-to-his-wife/

Only Allah knows best.

Written by Maulana Jamal Ahmed

Checked and Approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham

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