Should the marriage proposal from a non modest family be accepted?

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Fatwa ID: 03149

Answered by:  Maulana Moinul Abu Hamza


What is instructed in the case that a proposal comes for a girl of a boy whose character and religion are fine but the girl fears that since the family is not very modest and she fears that she might not be able to maintain pardah very well due to lack of cooperation of the boy's family members? Can the proposal be accepted in such a case?



In The Name Of Allah, The Most-Merciful, The Most Kind


The proposal that put a wife under the risk of not observing the pardah is not suitable housing of the husband. The prospective husband must either provide a separate home or ensure that private dwellings that is safe and that had privacy (1) within the family home and other matters are in order in a way that is congenial for the wife to live in.


Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) said, "Beware of entering upon the ladies." A man from the Ansar said, "Allah's Apostle! What about Al-Hamu the in-laws of the wife (the brothers of her husband or his nephews etc.)?" The Prophet (ﷺ) replied: The in-laws of the wife are death itself. (2)


(1)Therefore, for them, it will be sufficient to provide a separate quarter that has a lock.” (Radd al-Muhtar 3/559-600)

(2)Sahih al-Bukhari 5232


Only Allah knows best

Answered By Maulana Moinul Abu Hamza

Check and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham

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