{"id":26941,"date":"2022-12-15T17:14:00","date_gmt":"2022-12-15T17:14:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/?p=26941"},"modified":"2022-12-15T17:14:00","modified_gmt":"2022-12-15T17:14:00","slug":"the-husband-said-to-his-wife-you-should-taste-the-pain-of-zihaar","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/the-husband-said-to-his-wife-you-should-taste-the-pain-of-zihaar\/","title":{"rendered":"The Husband Said to His Wife, \u201cYou Should Taste the Pain of Zihaar\u201d"},"content":{"rendered":"

Fatwa ID: 06361<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answered by: Alimah Zainab Nakhuda<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Question:<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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There was a situation of argument between husband and wife. The husband, at a moment of the argument, said to his wife, “you should taste the pain of Zihaar” and then, the wife replied, “Do it!” and then the husband said to the wife, “You are to me like my mother”.<\/span><\/p>\n

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But, later, the husband said that he didn\u2019t intend to make Zihaar. He said the words of Zihaar with no intention.<\/span>
\nHas the Zihaar been made by the husband?<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answer:<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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When it comes to Zihaar, the intention is to be there. Ibn Qudamah mentions in his Al-Mughni:<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u0648\u0625\u0646 \u0642\u0627\u0644 : \u0623\u0646\u062a \u0639\u0644\u064a \u0643\u0623\u0645\u064a . \u0623\u0648 : \u0645\u062b\u0644 \u0623\u0645\u064a . \u0648\u0646\u0648\u0649 \u0628\u0647 \u0627\u0644\u0638\u0647\u0627\u0631 , \u0641\u0647\u0648 \u0638\u0647\u0627\u0631 , \u0641\u064a \u0642\u0648\u0644 \u0639\u0627\u0645\u0629 \u0627\u0644\u0639\u0644\u0645\u0627\u0621 \u060c \u0648\u0625\u0646 \u0646\u0648\u0649 \u0628\u0647 \u0627\u0644\u0643\u0631\u0627\u0645\u0629 \u0648\u0627\u0644\u062a\u0648\u0642\u064a\u0631 \u0641\u0644\u064a\u0633 \u0628\u0638\u0647\u0627\u0631 \u0648\u0647\u0643\u0630\u0627 \u0644\u0648 \u0642\u0627\u0644 : \u0623\u0646\u062a \u0623\u0645\u064a , \u0623\u0648 : \u0627\u0645\u0631\u0623\u062a\u064a \u0623\u0645\u064a.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Most scholars agree that if he says, “You are to me like my mother,” intending Zihaar, then it is Zihaar. It is not Zihaar, though, if he meant to respect and honour her. The same holds true if he says, \u201cmy wife is my mother,” or “You are my mother\u201d. [Al Mughni Vol 6 page 8]<\/span><\/p>\n

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You mentioned that the husband didn\u2019t intend Zihaar, rather it was a joke. This means that his intention wasn\u2019t there thus Zihaar doesn\u2019t occur. Even the wife in this instant when she said \u201cdo it\u201d to the husband gave him the green light to say that which is compatible with Zihar, this is also wrong. The whole situation more or less turned out to be full of irrelevance and very childish.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Nonetheless, Even if one is joking regarding Zihaar, one should not say this and must refrain from uttering such words. Allah SWT mentions in the Qur\u2019an:<\/span><\/p>\n

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Those who pronounce Zihaar among you (to separate) from their wives \u2013 they are not (consequently) their mothers. Their mothers are none but those who gave birth to them. And indeed, they are saying an objectionable statement and a falsehood. But indeed, Allah is Pardoning and Forgiving. [Surah Mujaadalah verse 2]<\/span><\/p>\n

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Only Allah knows best<\/span><\/p>\n

Written by Maulana Burhaan Rahman<\/span><\/p>\n

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/p>\n

Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n

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