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Fatwa ID: 07349<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answered by: Mufti Nazrul Islam<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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I have been married for 17 years and have been in the running battle with my husband not accepting my family. It wasn\u2019t like this at the beginning hut truly my father was reluctant in me marrying him but he later agreed. He says my family don\u2019t like him and wants me to keep my siblings and parents at arms length. Initially I was afraid and agreed. He doesn’t want them coming to our house. <\/span><\/p>\n

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On more that one occasion in the middle of the night when my brother came to deliver a message he insisted I send him out and he had to travel back 2 hours back to my parents house. He says his own family don\u2019t come to his house too so there is no issue.. I am the sole provider of the family and Allah knows I make no issue of it but recently I told him I feel like a slave. I bought a car with my money and when I was living the country I wanted to sell it to my brother. I told him and he became annoyed and beat me up saying I bought the car in his house and as such it belongs to him and I can\u2019t give anyone without his permission. I left the car for him and apologised to my brother and returned his money. My siblings are actually comfortable in. Now two of them want me to go to Hajj and he is saying no one should send his wife to Hajj. I have 3 kids who witness how he shouts and abuses my emotionally and physically.<\/span><\/p>\n

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He does nothing for my parents. Won\u2019t even call them but I don\u2019t look at this and do my part for him mum. Gift her things and call her. I have tried talking to her but she sees nothing wrong. I am the first born of my parents and have siblings who want to look up to me but he is preventing that with all his power saying I should be loyal only to him.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I have told him I have a responsibility to my parents and siblings and that doesn’t affect my responsibility to him and my immediate family but he refused. We had a major fight when I said it over the phone.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I live in UK now and he is in our country but he is coming down to UK and I am already scared. He also won\u2019t listen to any Ulama or any advise he believes he knows more. How do I handle this issue.he listens to no one and becomes violent if things don\u2019t go his way<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/strong><\/u><\/span><\/p>\n

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I pray that Allah S.W.T grants ease.<\/span><\/p>\n

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