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Fatwa ID: 08650<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answered by: Maulana Nuski Cassim<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Question:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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I would like to ask that recently my wife made some false DV allegations and she included my children in that that I abused them (Astaghfirullah) I love my children dearly and they\u2019re the world to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

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The case is ongoing and i\u2019m very hopeful that insha\u2019Allah the result will be the truth but in the meantime she is claiming child maintenance from me and also not letting see my children. I miss my children dearly but can\u2019t see them.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Please shed some light in these two regards as what does Islam say that whether I should keep her (I don\u2019t trust her now) or should I divorce her and also with regards to not letting a father see his own children.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answer:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Barring either parent from seeing their children is a grave sin in Islam. Your query mentions three things:<\/span><\/p>\n

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  1. Maintenance of one\u2019s children.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    2. Whether or not you should divorce your wife.<\/span><\/p>\n

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    3. Not letting a father see his own children.<\/span><\/p>\n

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    The answers are as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n

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    1. Maintenance of the children are upon the father. This maintenance covers food, clothing, medication and shelter. Maintenance of the children, Islamically, until they reach the age of puberty whereby there are now able to earn. However, there are some situations wherein the father is still responsible for the maintenance of his children post-puberty.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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      1. When trust is lost in a marriage, it becomes very hard to regain or repair that lost trust. In addition to this lost trust, your predicament seems to be exacerbated by false domestic abuse allegations. With this said, the decision to divorce your wife or keep her rests entirely with you. Our recommendation would be to pray on this issue and seek Allah\u2019s guidance. Moreover, speak with the elders of the family (from both sides) as well as a local scholar. Once you gain a great deal of clarity, only then should you act upon a decision.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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        1. As mentioned at the beginning, it is a grave sin for both the father and the mother to prevent their children from seeing each respective parent\u2014in the case of divorce or otherwise. If your inability to see them is rooted in a legal ongoing investigation whereby you\u2019ve been given clear orders to stay away from your children, then our stance is that you remain patient till the investigation is completed and a ruling has been issued. <\/span>If this is not the case, and the domestic violence accusations are false, then <\/span>your wife is committing a major sin by preventing you from seeing the children. <\/span>She is to allow you your right in seeing them as frequently as you please. If she <\/span>feels uncomfortable, she can have an adult male mahram present during your <\/span>visits.<\/span><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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          I\u2019d like to add that outside of a court decision, Islamically, the mother [in the case of divorce] has the right to child custody up until a certain period. If the child is a son, then she has the right of custody until he is 7 years old. And if the child is a daughter, then she has the right of custody until she is 9 years old.<\/span><\/p>\n

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          Nonetheless, even after this period, the mother will not be prevented from seeing her children.<\/span><\/p>\n

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          Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n

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