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Fatwa ID: 08025<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answered by: Maulana Abdoullah Limvoonheek<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Question:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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We grew up experiencing discipline through hiding and shouting, which is common among many parents. Is there any basis in the Shariah for gentle parenting or the different names people use nowadays?<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Islam portrays gentleness and kindness. Even in the life of Our Nabi, he was an embodiment of good character. The incident of Hzt Anas (RA), he said: “I served the Prophet for ten years, and he never said to me, ‘Uf’ (a minor harsh word denoting impatience) and never blamed me by saying, ‘Why did you do so or why didn\u2019t you do so?'”<\/span><\/p>\n

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This is the greatest example we can find and the best model to emulate. Raising children is hard, but it has to be done with love and care. Anger, shouting, and hitting were never the way.<\/span><\/p>\n

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It is mentioned in a hadith: “He who is deprived of tenderly feelings is in fact deprived of good, and he who is deprived of tenderly feelings is in fact deprived of good.”<\/span><\/p>\n

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However, at times children must be disciplined, and the laws of Allah cannot be compromised. As per the advice in the hadith: “Command your children to pray when they become seven years old, and beat them for it (prayer) when they become ten years old.”<\/span><\/p>\n

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Therefore, it is important to set a good example, provide children with proper upbringing, and make dua for them.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Only Allah (\u0639\u0632 \u0648 \u062c\u0644) knows best.<\/span><\/p>\n

Written by: Maulana Abdoullah Limvoonheek<\/span><\/p>\n

Checked and approved by: Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/p>\n

Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n

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