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Fatwa ID: 08161<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answered by: <\/strong><\/span>Alimah Shireen Mangera-Badat<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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Question:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Also, a few questions came from this narration in a recent Adab Al Mufrad class, I would appreciate any guidance to answer these questions:<\/span><\/p>\n

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Does the money that a parent gives their child remain the parent’s or does ownership transfer to the child?<\/span><\/p>\n

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Who is responsible for financially supporting parents after the children are married?<\/span><\/p>\n

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What is the role of a daughter in supporting her parents after she is married?<\/span><\/p>\n

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If we assume that some particulars of Shari’ah have been left to ‘Urf, which accommodates various cultures, what then is the boundary or remit from Shari’ah to prevent harm considering secular liberal values that do not necessarily have boundaries, and which can often leave parents in financially vulnerable situations?<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answer:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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In answer to your question 1 \u2014 according to Hanafi Fiqh:<\/span><\/p>\n

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A father cannot take back something that he has given his child \u2014 this would be classed as a gift.[1] Such as an allowance. Now if the father has made clear that there\u2019s some sort of control over the wealth, that will then belong to the father and not the child as it doesn\u2019t belong to the child.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In answer to Q2 \u2014 the responsibility of financially providing for the parents is compulsory upon an individual, if they are poor, and if he can do so.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Allah Most High says:<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cYour Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honour.\u201d (Surah al-Isra: 23)<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201cA wealthy son will be obligated to spend on his poor parents, whether they are Muslims or otherwise, and whether they are capable of earning themselves or otherwise.\u201d<\/span>
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This indicates that if the parents are in financial need and the son has the means, he is required to support them.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In answer to your third question, the daughter\u2019s first responsibility is to her husband.<\/span><\/p>\n

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This verse indicates that obedience to her husband is paramount, therefore, the financial burden does not fall upon her. However, if she can provide when there are no sons, from the goodness of her heart, she can give some contribution to her parents, for kindness is encouraged in the Qur\u2019an.[3] (Surah Isra: 23)<\/span><\/p>\n

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And your last question \u2014 as to what to do really in a secular state \u2014 that is for you and your family to work out and prioritise Islam and your duties. If there is more than one sibling, maybe you should have a family chat about responsibilities and find a middle way for all to be resolved and no one individual is burdened.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Only Allah knows best.<\/span><\/p>\n

Written by <\/span>Alimah Shireen Mangera-Badat<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Checked and approved by <\/span>Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n

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