{"id":7742,"date":"2014-07-30T16:13:21","date_gmt":"2014-07-30T16:13:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/?p=7742"},"modified":"2014-07-30T16:13:21","modified_gmt":"2014-07-30T16:13:21","slug":"husband-demanding-wife-to-break-relationship-with-her-sister","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/husband-demanding-wife-to-break-relationship-with-her-sister\/","title":{"rendered":"Husband demanding wife to break relationship with her sister"},"content":{"rendered":"

\n\tFatwa ID: 01656<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAnswered by <\/strong>Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tQuestion:<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tI have been happily married for nearly 20 years. My sister is married to my husband’s brother and she refuses to live with the in laws, because of this my husband constantly argues with me and denies me to keep any relationship with my sister and parents. He refuses to talk with my sister and parents.
\n\tPlease advise me. <\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\r\n Answer:<\/strong><\/pre>\n
\n\t\"Bismillah\"<\/a><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tBreaking ties is considered a grave sin in Islam. Saaiduna Abu Al-Ansari \"ra\u1e0dyAll\u0101hu narrates that the Prophet of Allah \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu said, ‘It is unlawful for an individual to sever relationships with his brother (in deen) for more than three nights, thus they meet an ignore one another.  The best amongst them will be the one who greets the other first’.  (Sahih Bukhari)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tThe Prophet of Allah \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu has said, “Does not enter Paradise he who breaks up his family ties”. (Sahih Bukhari)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tThe Prophet of Allah \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu has said, “Whoever would like his rizq (provision) to be increased and his life to be extended, should uphold the ties of kinship.” (Sahih Bukhari & Sahih Muslim)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tThe husband has a right of refusing his wife’s parents, son (from another marriage) brothers and sisters to visit her, as the house belongs to him. However, he cannot prevent her from speaking to them. (Mukhtasar Quduuri)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tKeeping the aforementioned information in mind we can derive that it is not permissible for the husband to demand his wife not to speak to her sister.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tYour sister asking for a separate accommodation does not make her a sinner or a transgressor. Therefore, the husband cannot justify his stance by saying she is disobedient and a transgressor (Fasiq) which allows the breaking of ties. The basis of the aforementioned ruling is deduced from the incident when the Prophet of Allah \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu and the Companions abstained from talking to Kaab Ibn Malik \"ra\u1e0dyAll\u0101hu, Murara Ibn Rabi \"ra\u1e0dyAll\u0101hu and Hilal Ibn Umayya \"ra\u1e0dyAll\u0101hu for 50 nights until Allah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu revealed an ayat regarding their forgiveness in the Holy Quran.  (Maariful Quran p.489 v.4)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tThe conclusion of your answer will be that it is not permissible for your husband to demand you from breaking ties with your sister. Furthermore, it is also wrong and incorrect of your husband to abuse and cause arguments with you regarding this issue.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tThe Prophet of Allah \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu said, "Abusing a Muslim is an evil-doing and killing him is Kufr (disbelief)." (Sahih Bukhari)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tThe Prophet of Allah \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu said, “I guarantee a house in the surroundings of Paradise for a man who avoids quarrelling even if he were in the right, a house in the middle of Paradise for a man who avoids lying even if he were joking, and a house in the upper part of Paradise for a man who made his character good” (Sunan Abu Dawuud)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tOnly Allah Knows Best<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tMohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tDarul Ifta Birmingham.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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