Looking at other men as my husband is not good looking

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Fatwa ID: 01265

Answered by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Question:

Looking at other men as my husband is not good looking

Answer:

Bismillah

 

 

In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful.

The Prophet of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) has said, “A lady is married for one of four reasons, wealth, rank, beauty or piety. Choose the possessor of piety and achieve success.” (Sahih Bukhari p.762 v.2)

Regarding this hadeeth, Hafiz Ibn Hajar raḥimahullāh (may Allāh have mercy upon him) has said in Fathul Bari: "And it is taken from this that one with a noble lineage, it is better for him to marry one with a noble lineage, unless the lineage contradicts with a religious woman, or one with noble lineage contradicts a non-religious woman, then the religious woman is chosen. And it is likewise in the other three traits." (p.41 v.9)

From the aforementioned hadith the conclusion we can come to is that one should strive to be married to someone knowledgeable and religious. The reason why our spouses should be knowledgeable of the deen is so that they will be able to lead the married life according to the commands of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He).

Good looks and beauty is temporary whilst manners and piety is everlasting. You should thank Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) that he has blessed you with someone who is kind and willing to abide by the Shariah.

Pray to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) regularly, in particular increase your duas after the five daily prayers, asking Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) to save you from the sin of looking at other men.

Only Allah Knows Best

Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham

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