Can I stop my husband from having relations with me in this situation

CategoriesMarriage [717]

Fatwa ID: 01871

Answered by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah


Thank you for replying my question earlier, as i told you that my husband is converted from Hindu to Islam my question is
1. My In Laws are not aware of this and my husband who has been married to me works on ship and this time he wants to share this conversion with his parents can u suggest some dua or wazifa, so that he can pray to Allahtala and show his courage of sharing this news with his parents.
2. As you know my Husband has committed Adultery and now he is very much guilty in front of Allahtala and he always says me that he is been asking for forgiveness from Allahtala, as i have forgiven him because he has assured me that it was a mistake and will not be repeated but from 7 months i m not allowing him to have relation with me because he has committed a sin. So can i give his all rights back because i get afraid if Allahtala gets angry with me if i have relation with him. Please suggest or advise me.
3. Also please suggest some dua or wazifa that i can read for my relationship and make my easy to tackle this problem.



Your husband should read the following dua when he goes to inform his parents of his conversion to Islam.

“O Allah! Nothing is easy except that which You make easy, and it is only You who can, if You will, if You will, turn grief and difficulties easy.”

Both the couple should read the following dua for a happy and peaceful marriage.

Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous." (Surah Furqan v.74)

If your husband has repented then you should allow him to have relations with you. In Islam a man is entitled to have relations with his wife unless the wife is in her periods or physically unable to have relations or just emotionally drained out, in which case she does not have to comply with her husband’s demands. Also it does not mean that a husband can violently and forcefully have sexual relations with the wife. (Badaaius Sanai p.331 v.2)

It will be considered a sin on behalf of the wife not to have intercourse with the husband without one of the aforementioned reasons.

It is narrated by Saaiduna Abu Hurairah raḍyAllāhu 'anhu (may Allāh be pleased with him) that the Prophet of Allah ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him)] said, “When a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and then he sleeps being angry, the angels curse her until morning.” (Sahih Bukhari & Sahih Muslim)

Only Allah Knows Best

Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham

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