Fatwa ID: 02261
Answered by Maulana Jamal Ahmed
I have received further information from the brother so to clarify
please disregard my previous message.
I have a very important and urgent question. A husband and wife were
arguing over text and the conversation went like this:
Husband: I'm so ******* fine
Wife: Shall we continue?
Wife: Say it
Wife: I don't care
Wife: Literally done with you
Wife No way am I taking this
Husband: Then just **** off
Husband: You crazy *****
Wife: Say it so I can
Wife: Believe me I want to
Wife: Am dying to
Wife: I'm not going to go through the shit you put me through
Wife: Ok now that's done – I have Quran in my hand as well
I have read their conversation and spoken to the husband who said
'divorce' to get his wife off his back and said it after they had argued
over the phone. He knew if he said it a third time the message would
sink into his wife's head to leave him alone for a few hours and stop
arguing. So to emphasise his point but not for an actual divorce he said
it a third time knowing this would stop the argument. Further to this as
he was typing the first 'divorce' he said to himself 'In Shaa Allah
Is this divorce valid? Could you please back to me as soon as possible
either via email or phone.
Sayyiduna Abu Hurayrah (radiyallahu ‘anhu) reports that Nabi (sallallahu ‘alayhiwasallam) said:
There are three things which, whether undertaken seriously or in jest, are treated as serious; Marriage, divorce and taking back a wife (after a revocable divorce)
(SunanTirmidhi, Hadith: 1184, Sunan Abi Dawud: Hadith: 2194 and Sunan Ibn Majah, Hadith: 2039)
Based on the above hadith, if someone uses a clear and unambiguous word like divorce, then divorce will take place whether he intended to give talaq or not.
If someone gives talaq but says ‘inshaallah’ immediately, then talaq does not take place. But he has to say inshaallah so that someone close to him can hear him, if he says it in his mind, it has no bearing on the talaq.
When the wife said “No way am I taking this” and the husband said “: Then just **** off”. This statement of the husband could mean ‘get away from me’ or just a swear. If he meant to give talaq with this word then one irrevocable talaq will take place.
In your case the husband said ‘divorce inshaallah’ then he wrote the word divorce three times all together, so the verbal talaq did not take place but the written three talaq took place.
(وَلَهُ وَلَا التَّلَفُّظُ بِهِمَا) أَيْ بِالطَّلَاقِ وَالِاسْتِثْنَاءِ (قَوْلُهُ أَوْ عَكَسَ) أَيْ كَتَبَ الطَّلَاقَ وَتَلَفَّظَ بِالِاسْتِثْنَاءِ (قَوْلُهُ أَوْ أَزَالَ الِاسْتِثْنَاءَ إلَخْ) أَشَارَ بِهِ إلَى قِسْمٍ رَابِعٍ، وَهُوَ مَا إذَا كَتَبَهُمَا مَعًا فَإِنَّهُ يَصِحُّ أَيْضًا وَإِنْ أَزَالَ الِاسْتِثْنَاءَ بَعْدَ الْكِتَابَةِ فَافْهَمْ.
raddulmuhtar, vol. 3, pg. 368, pub. darulfikrbeirut.
وَحَالُ الْغَضَبِ وَالْخُصُومَةِ يَصْلُحُ لِلشَّتْمِ وَيَصْلُحُ لِلطَّلَاقِ فَبَقِيَ اللَّفْظُ فِي نَفْسِهِ مُحْتَمِلًا لِلطَّلَاقِ وَغَيْرِهِ، فَإِذَا عَنِيَ بِهِ غَيْرَهُ فَقَدْ نَوَى مَا يَحْتَمِلُهُ كَلَامُهُ.
badaiassanai, vol. 3, pg. 107, darulkutub al ilmiyah
(قَوْلُهُ مَسْمُوعًا) هَذَا عِنْدَ الْهِنْدُوَانِيُّ وَهُوَ الصَّحِيحُ كَمَا فِي الْبَدَائِعِ. وَعِنْدَ الْكَرْخِيِّ لَيْسَ بِشَرْطٍ (قَوْلُهُ بِحَيْثُ إلَخْ) أَشَارَ بِهِ إلَى أَنَّ الْمُرَادَ بِالْمَسْمُوعِ مَا شَأْنُهُ أَنْ يُسْمَعَ وَإِنْ لَمْ يَسْمَعْهُ الْمُنْشِئُ لِكَثْرَةِ أَصْوَاتٍ مَثَلًا.
raddulmuhtar, vol. 3, pg. 368, darulfikrbeirut.
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Written by Maulana Jamal Ahmed
Checked and Approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
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