Fatwa ID: 02720

Answered by: Moulana Tahsin Alam​

Question:

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah!

I have issued my wife with talaaq three times during a single incident. This was following an argument where I became so angry that I wanted to strangle her but instead, I picked up the kettle and swung it dropping all the water and hitting a deicer bottle on the worktop. In the time of anger, I said: “talaq, talaq, talaq”.

The whole incident lasted a matter of 10-20 seconds. This is not the first time I have lost control of my temper and almost instantly flown of the handle. On numerous previous occasions, I have abused my wife, charged at her, made threats, got in her face, and been physically violent.

All my family know I have a problem with my temper and I have in the past had sessions of hypnotherapy for it with intentions of attending anger management. I lost control of my senses and did not consider the consequences. I deeply regretted my actions that same day in what I can only describe as a moment of complete madness driven by the loss of my emotions and reason. I have 3 children and I would like to know if I am able to take my wife back.

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

Answer:

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh,

You have given three ṭalāqs (divorces) in one incident to your now ex-wife; a man only has three divorces to give to his wife before she becomes mugallaẓah (irrevocably haram upon you until she marries another man and has intercourse). There is no possibility for you to take your wife back in the current state.

Only Allah knows best

Written by Moulana Tahsin Alam

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham