Fatwa ID: 08057

Answered by: Moulana Sakib Shadman

Question:
AssalamuAlaikum.

“During a fight with my husband, he said, ‘ from today I have no relation with you/ relation is over” ( any one of the two). At a point I said in native language: “Ami tomar kache theka na” ( I am not liable to you)
He said ‘ you’re free, you’re free’
He did not use any clear word as talaq, divorce or any local term indicating such.

Husband assured me and swore by Allah that he didn’t intend talaq. The context of our fight did not revolve around talaq. I did not intend/ ask for talaq by saying ‘not liable ‘ and our nikahmana gives me permission to talaq conditionally ( as such for his physical inability, being imprisoned or untraceable, not providing maintainance)

One of my local fatwa departments counted the word “free” in anger as talaq and said due to multiple kinaya words, one talaq e baaiin was enacted. Also he prescribed me to renew my marriage and I did accordingly.

My questions are:

what is the present state of my marriage? Are we in legal marriage contract now by Islam?

Me having OCD, I want to know, Even if husband intends talaq by multiple kinaya words, how many talaqs are effected in one sitting ?

Does the term ‘not liable ‘ by anyhow mean ‘Asking for’ talaq?

Due to excessive google search in talaq issues, a finding has spiked me a question. If a man says to particular woman BEFORE MARRIAGE, ”If you do so and such, may our relation doesn’t persist ” , does it affect their marriage while the wife actualizing that mentioned thing?

Due to OCD, I think of talaq and without uttering -the thinking of divorcing my husband comes to mind. Does it affect marriage?
N.B: I follow Hanafi Fiqh.

After knowing about kinaya words, I have confusion /waswasa that if me and my husband have uttered allusive words in any of our previous arguments, what would happen? As I don’t remember and not sure about any kinaya word of previous arguments ( when we were unaware of kinaya talaq), what should I do about those?

I know I asked elaboratey but trust me I am so worried. Please enlighten me on the light of Quran and Sunnah references. May Allah reward you. Jajhakallahu khairan.

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

Answer:
1)If your husband swears that he did not intend talaq, then your marriage is still intact and divorce never took place. The renewing of your nikah was superfluous.

Only one irrevocable divorce will take place. In other words, the first kinayah words he uttered with the intention of talaq will cause your marriage to end. All the other kinayah utterances thereafter will not have any effect. As long he has not previously given you two divorces, if you want to remarry, you will have to renew your nikah.

That is not asking for Talaq.

the phrase “may our relationship not persist” sounds more like a Dua, wish, or desire to give talaq. It does not sound like an allusive phrase that could be interpreted as pronouncing talaq in a decisive manner.

Thinking about talaq does not cause talaq to occur.

Try to remove these doubts from your mind. Even in the off-chance that your husband uttered allusive words with the intention of Talaq in the past, you’ve renewed your nikah. So do not obsess over the past and assure yourself that your nikah is intact. Advise your husband to control his tongue when he is angry from now on. You should also keep a cool brain during arguments.

Only Allah (عز و جل) knows best.
Written by Maulana Sakib Shadman
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham

References: قَضَاءً (إلَّا بِنِيَّةٍ أَوْ دَلَالَةِ الْحَالِ) وَهِيَ حَالَةُ مُذَاكَرَةِ الطَّلَاقِ أَوْ الْغَضَبِ،
ص297 – كتاب حاشية ابن عابدين رد المحتار ط الحلبي – باب الكنايات – المكتبة الشاملة

باب الأيمان في الطلاق وإذا أضاف الطلاق إلى النكاح وقع عقيب النكاح، مثل أن يقول لامرأة إن تزوجتك فأنت طالق أو كل امرأة أتزوجها فهي طالق. فعند الشافعي – رَحِمَهُ اللَّهُ – لا يقع لقوله – صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ -: «لا طلاق قبل النكاح» .
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وأما هاهنا الطلاق في يد الزوج إن شاء طلقها وإن شاء أمسكها بالعيب، فلا حاجة بنا إلى إثبات خيار الرد (١).
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إذا اعتقت تحت حر – المكتبة الشاملة

وَيَدُلُّ عَلَيْهِ قَوْله تَعَالَى ﴿الطَّلاقُ مَرَّتَانِ فَإِمْسَاكٌ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌ بِإِحْسَانٍ﴾
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منها: اليقين لا يزول بالشك، وهذه من القواعد الأصولية وليس الفقهية،
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