Fatwa ID: 08781

 

 

Answered by: Maulana Sakib Shadman

 

Question:

 

During arguments, my husband said things  ‘You are free’ — only to end my extreme anger and on my repeated emotional demands. I was asking that I want to live freely as he is living like, I can go somewhere, do job, meet someone or what ever I want. He said ‘ok you are free, do whatever you want’. He later clarified that he never intended divorce and didn’t even know that such words could be considered as talaq. We continued living together as normal.

 

 

Recently, in frustration, I (the wife) also said, ‘If you won’t give me my rights, should I just marry someone else? it was just a random question and he said ‘Fine, go ahead and get married’ In light of all this, does any of it count as a valid divorce in Islam?

 

 

 

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

 

 

Answer:

 

If your husband said either of the statements “you are free” or “fine, go ahead and get married” with the intention of divorce, then one Talaq Bain (irrevocable divorce) will take place. In order to reconcile your marriage, you will have to renew your Nikah (unless he has given you three Talaqs in total).

 

 

He does not need to have knowledge of whether either of the two statements constitute Talaq. Either way, if he intends divorce when saying such allusive statements (Kinaayaat) of Talaq, irrevocable divorce will take place.

 

 

Both you and your husband need to control your anger, and not say anything that will may cause your marriage to break during your heated arguments. As a wife, you should not provoke your husband to give you divorce by indirectly asking for it. When you make such requests, it puts the idea of Talaq in his mind and on his tongue. Again, please control your temper so that it does not lead to your marriage ending inadvertently.

 

 

 

References:

 

(قَوْلُهُ مَا لَمْ يُوضَعْ لَهُ إلَخْ) أَيْ بَلْ وُضِعَ لِمَا هُوَ أَعَمُّ مِنْهُ وَمِنْ حُكْمِهِ لِأَنَّ مَا سِوَى الثَّلَاثِ الرَّجْعِيَّةِ الْآتِيَةِ لَمْ يُرِدْ بِهِ الطَّلَاقَ أَصْلًا، بَلْ هُوَ حُكْمُهُ فِي الْبَيْنُونَةِ مِنْ النِّكَاحِ؛ وَعَلَيْهِ فَفِي قَوْلِهِ وَاحْتَمَلَهُ تَسَاهُلٌ، وَالْمُرَادُ احْتَمَلَهُ مُتَعَلِّقًا لِمَعْنَاهُ، وَأَفَادَهُ فِي الْفَتْحِ، وَأَشَارَ بِهِ إلَى عَدَمِ حَصْرِهَا، لِذَلِكَ قَالَ فِي شَرْحِ الْمُلْتَقَى ثُمَّ أَلْفَاظُ الْكِنَايَةِ كَثِيرَةٌ تَرْتَقِي إلَى أَكْثَرَ مِنْ خَمْسَةٍ وَخَمْسِينَ لَفْظًا عَلَى مَا فِي النَّظْمِ وَالنُّتَفِ وَزِيدَ غَيْرُهَا فَتَنَبَّهْ. اهـ. وَمِنْهَا عَدَّيْتُ عَنْهَا فَيَقَعُ بِهِ الْبَائِنُ بِالنِّيَّةِ كَمَا أَفْتَى بِهِ الشَّيْخُ إسْمَاعِيلُ الْحَائِكُ. قُلْت: وَمِنْهَا أَنْتِ خَالِصَةٌ الْمُسْتَعْمَلُ فِي زَمَانِنَا فَإِنَّهُ فِي مَعْنَى خَلِيَّةٍ وَبَرِيَّةٍ تَأَمَّلْ.

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ص296 – كتاب حاشية ابن عابدين رد المحتار ط الحلبي – باب الكنايات – المكتبة الشاملة

 

(قَوْلُهُ: وَهِيَ بَائِنٌ) مِنْ بَابِ بَانَ الشَّيْءُ إذَا انْفَصَلَ فَهُوَ بَائِنٌ وَأَبَنْته بِالْأَلِفِ فَصَلْته، وَبَانَتْ الْمَرْأَةُ بِالطَّلَاقِ فَهِيَ بَائِنٌ بِغَيْرِهَا، وَأَبَانَهَا زَوْجُهَا بِالْأَلِفِ فَهِيَ مُبَانَةٌ قَالَ ابْنُ السِّكِّيتِ فِي كِتَابِ التَّوْسِعَةِ تَطْلِيقَةٌ بَائِنَةٌ، وَالْمَعْنَى مُبَانَةٌ قَالَ الصَّاغَانِيُّ – رَحِمَهُ اللَّهُ – فَاعِلَةٌ بِمَعْنَى مَفْعُولَةٌ كَذَا فِي الْمِصْبَاحِ وَفِي مَنْظُومَةِ ابْنِ وَهْبَانَ مَا حَاصِلُهُ أَنَّهُ لَوْ عَلَّقَ بِالشَّرْطِ إبَانَةً بِلَا نِيَّةِ طَلَاقٍ لَمْ يَقَعْ إذَا وُجِدَ شَرْطُهُ اهـ.

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ص324 – كتاب البحر الرائق شرح كنز الدقائق ومنحة الخالق وتكملة الطوري – باب الكنايات في الطلاق – المكتبة الشاملة

 

وَإِن قَالَ لَهَا أَنْت خلية أَو بَريَّة أَو بتة اَوْ بَائِن اَوْ حرَام اَوْ

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ص205 – كتاب الجامع الصغير ومعه النافع الكبير – باب الكنايات – المكتبة الشاملة

 

 

 

Only Allah (عز و جل) knows best.

Written by Maulana Sakib Shadman

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham