Fatwa ID: 02112
Answered by Molana Eunus Ali
Question:
Asalamulaikum Hazrat.
I was wondering is there an age to limit to how long a father can assist his wife in bathing, and changing their daughter in full nakedness?
Our daughter is now 2 years, and 7 months. My wife is also almost 7
months pregnant. So, it's not easy for her, but I'm still conscious
there must be a limit to when the father should be distracting his
gazes?
Jazak'Allah.
Answer:
When a female has reached an age whereby she is considered attractive by others although she may have not reached the age of maturity/puberty, the father will be allowed to look at her with the exception of her back, the stomach area until the pass the thighs. It will not be permissible for the father and any other male family members to look at these areas of her body.
Before reaching this age, it will be permissible for the father to look and touch these areas with the condition that the father does not harbour or fear that it may lead to him harbouring unlawful desires towards his daughter.
If the father harbours or fears harbouring such feelings, it will not be permissible for the father to do so.[1]
In regards to your questions it will be permissible to assist in the changing and bathing of the daughter provided there is unlawful desire or the possibility of it up until the age mentioned above.
Only Allah knows best
Written by Molana Eunus Ali
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
[1] Al-BinayahSharh Al-Hidayah, Volume 12, Page 134 & 153, DarulKutubulIlmiyyah
Al-Fatawa Al-Hindiyyah, Volum 5, Page 405, DarulKutubulIlmiyyah