Fatwa ID: 02847

Answered by:  Maulana Afzal Hussain

Question:

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah

What are the different ways of foreplay with a wife?

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah

Narrated Jabir bin Abdullah:

When I got married, Allah's Messenger said to me, "What type of lady have you married?" I replied, "I have married a matron' He said, "Why, don't you have a liking for the virgins and for fondling them?" Jabir also said: Allah's Messenger  said, "Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you might play with her and she with you?' [Sahih al-Bukhari 5080]

Imam Ibn Al-Qayem said, “The husband should first fondle his wife before having relations with her, by kissing her and sucking her tongue sometimes. The Messenger of Allah used to do the same with his wives. Abu Dawood narrated in his sunan: ‘The Prophet used to kiss Ayesha and suck her tongue.’ In addition, Jabir bin Abdullah narrated ‘The Messenger of Allah did not allow sexual intercourse before fondling (the wife).’”[See: The Prophetic Medicine by Ibn al-Qayem Translation by Abdel-Qadir, publisher: Dar Al Ghad al-Jadid, page: 322]

All the above are clear proof that foreplay is an empathic sunnah and it can be done by kissing, fondling, teasing, licking, cradling, squeezing, hugging, embracing, love bites, etc as long as anal sex and sex during menstruation is avoided.

Only Allah knows best.

Written by Maulana Afzal Hussain

Checked and approved Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham