Fatwa ID: 06955
Answered by Maulana Ubaidur Rahman
Question:
My friend is 25 years old now but when he was 15 he used to massage his mother but one day saw her private part while massaging he had lust and erection but his mother didn’t had any bad intentions and he didn’t know about hurmat e musahara . Later when he knew about hurmat e musahara he asked forgiveness from Allah as he is most forgiving . Is his parents marriage still there and with sincere repentance is he forgiven . Please help as he is in lot of pain and asks for forgiveness every time.
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Answer:
An important factor to consider for the application of hurmat e musaaharah is if lust occurred at the time of touching or not. If it did occur then hurmat e musaaharah applies. If it didn’t occur, then hurmat e musaaharah will not apply and it is strongly recommended and advised to give sadaqah/charity. Strong forgiveness should be sought and one should educate oneself regarding the principles of Islam, and touching; who one can touch after reaching the age of puberty and to what extent.
In this case, he felt lust and experienced an erection. It does not matter if the mother didn’t feel it because he did and the ruling will apply.
وَلَا يَخْفَى أَنَّ الْمُتُونَ طَافِحَةٌ بِأَنَّ اللَّمْسَ وَنَحْوَهُ كَالْوَطْءِ فِي إيجَابِهِ حُرْمَةَ الْمُصَاهَرَةِ مِنْ غَيْرِ اخْتِصَاصٍ بِمَوْضِعٍ دُونَ مَوْضِعٍ، لَكِنْ لَمَّا كَانَتْ الْآيَةُ مُصَرِّحَةً بِحُرْمَةِ الرَّبَائِبِ بِقَيْدِ الدُّخُولِ وَبِعَدَمِهَا عِنْدَ عَدَمِهِ كَانَ ذَلِكَ مَظِنَّةَ أَنْ يُتَوَهَّمَ أَنَّ خُصُوصَ الدُّخُولِ هُنَا لَا بُدَّ مِنْهُ، وَأَنَّ تَصْرِيحَهُمْ بِأَنَّ اللَّمْسَ وَنَحْوَهُ يُوجِبُ حُرْمَةَ الْمُصَاهَرَةِ بِمَخْصُوصٍ بِمَا عَدَا الرَّبَائِبَ لِظَاهِرِ الْآيَةِ فَنَقْلُ التَّصْرِيحِ عَنْ أَبِي حَنِيفَةَ بِأَنَّهُ قَائِمٌ مَقَامَ الْوَطْءِ هُنَا لِدَفْعِ ذَلِكَ الْوَهْمِ،[1]
When hurmat e musaaharah becomes established, then the ascendents and descents become haram and prohibited on the people that it applies to.
Only Allah knows best
Answered by Maulana Ubaidur Rahman
Checked and Approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
[1] Raddul Muhtar, page 33, volume 3, Maktabatu Shamila. ص31 – كتاب حاشية ابن عابدين رد المحتار ط الحلبي – فروع طلق امرأته تطليقتين ولها منه لبن فاعتدت فنكحت صغيرا فأرضعته فحرمت عليه فنكحت آخر فدخل بها – المكتبة الشاملة (shamela.ws)
