Fatwa ID: 06398

Answered by: Alimah Zakiratul Hoque

Question:

My mother-in-law was giving me money as a gift I declined she forcefully put it into my hand I tried to avoid her so her hand touched mine I could feel body heat but there was NO ERECTION I had loads of fear when it happened that’s the emotions I felt it was NOT LUST I am 100% sure no erection I checked my private going to one side but I’m not sure at the same time if it was erected already but if it was it 100% did not increase in size again I repeat DID NOT INCREASE but I favour the part of I DID NOT GET A ERECTION, anyways Im not sure now if this happened during she did that or like minutes after the touch the fear the sinking of my heart, also this had happened her hand was barely a second on mine also I dont have a feeling for her or find her attractive shes around hitting 50 or over 50 and is ill. No LUST NO LUST but again doubts you know my situation how did I get doubts at the time I felt my heart sink I got very scared loads of fear came to me because I worried was it a hurmat or not. I have spoken to my wife to tell her mother to avoid kissing my cheek and touching my hand respectfully so she doesn’t get upset is this hurmat does it affect relationships with my Mrs?

To sum up from my side what I can remember and conclude to No ERECTION NO LUST just a touch of the hand the feeling I felt was NOT LUST THE FEELINGS WHEN SHE TOUCHED ME WAS FEAR BECAUSE STRAIGHT AWAY I REMEMBERED HURMAR SO THERE WAS NO DIRTY WRONG Intension shes not kaabile shewat for me in Pakistan people find anyone attractive its a bad place when it comes to men they stare at any female, coming from UK I have always feared Allah and I always lower my gaze so just because its mere doubts later coming to mind am I ok? 

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

Answer:

For Hurmat Musaaharah to be established through touch, lust must be felt. The sign of lust in men is an erection (Fatawa Hindiyah, Vol 1, Pg 303). As you did not experience an erection, Hurmat Musaharah was not established. This does not affect your relationship with your wife.

و الشهوة تعتبر عند المس و النظر حتى لو وجدا بغير شهوة ثم اشتهى بعد الترك لا تتعلق به الحرم و حد الشهوة في الرجل أن تنتشر آلته أو تزداد آلته انتشارا إن كانت منتشرا

Only Allah knows best.

Written by Alimah Zakiratul Hoque

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham