Fatwa ID: 02577
Answered by: Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
I am a Muslim boy and I was in love with a Hindu girl. She wanted to marry me and we committed Zina 8-10 times. But unfortunately, she got married to a Hindu boy last month. She said she will not come to me in the future. She was born in a Hindu Brahmin family but she told me before her marriage that she never like idol worship. She said, 'My family forces me to go to the temple. I don’t like to go and I want to find a true God'.
She used to recite Kalimah Tawheed and whenever she felt stressed or depressed she would listen to naat and say that she felt so relaxed. She desires to go for Hajj. Despite being Hindu, she always advised me and insisted me to offer salah five times a day and always used to call me for Fajr salah. She also tried to fast this Ramadan but couldn't make it till iftar due to thirst. She always would tell me to do good deeds in an Islamic way whenever I felt that I didn't help her and I didn’t show her the true message.
Before her marriage, I always thought that I will forget her but now I feel so bad and guilty that due to my mistakes she will follow shirk and will go to hell. She never tried to hurt anyone. This guilt is killing me from inside. Once I thought of ending my life but the face of my parents stopped me. I know I can't live with the guilt. It's due to that girl that I pray my 5 daily salah. I cry and repent in front of Allah but what shall I do for that girl so that she gets hidayah? She doesn’t want to talk to me anymore because she doesn’t want to annoy her husband because despite knowing the truth of both of us that we committed sin, he still loves and respects her.
Please tell me what shall I do so that Allah gives her the strength to take the step towards Islam. She is married now and therefore can't do whatever she did in her previous home and her husband doesn't let her do that. She is alone. There no one to help her except Allah. Please tell me what shall I do so that Allah gives her hidayah?
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
You should firstly, stop contemplating and thinking about this girl. This is nothing but Satan trying to lead you astray. Allah has said, "Verily Satan is an enemy to you: so treat him as an enemy. He only invites his adherents, that they may become Companions of the Blazing Fire." (Surah Fatir v.6)
Islam is a religion that instructs its followers to be moral and modest and does not allow its followers to tread the path of immorality and immodesty. Allah enjoins on both males and females to restrain their eyes from looking at each other. “Enjoin the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their modesty… Likewise, enjoin the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their modesty… (Surah An-Nur: 30-31)
Ahadith on the prohibition of men and women intermingling are many. Jarir ibn Abdullah narrates that I asked the Prophet about the sudden glance (that is cast) on the face (of a non-Mahram). He commanded me that I should turn away my eyes. (Muslim, 1015)
Uqba bin Amir narrates that the Prophet said, "Beware of entering upon the ladies." A man from the Ansar said, "Allah's Apostle! What about the in-laws of the wife?" The Prophet replied, “The in-laws of the wife are death itself." (Bukhari, Vol 7, 159)
My humble advice to you will be to repent of your previous actions and stop thinking about this girl. You can pray for her guidance but importantly, do not get obsessed with what happened before. It was a mistake and you should repent for it. Insha Allah if you are patient, Allah will reward you with someone better than her.
Only Allah Knows Best
Written by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham