Fatwa ID: 04889
Answered by: Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Question
Please advise if it will be impermissible during relations to kiss the clitoral area for arousal purposes.
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Answer
It is permissible to touch, stroke, and fondle the genitals of one’s spouse. All these fall under the act of foreplay, which is an important part of sexual intercourse. Imam Ibn Qayyim (RA) mentions that Saaiduna Jabir Ibn Abdullah Radiallahu Anhu is reported to have said, “The Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam forbade from engaging in sex before foreplay.” (Al-Tibb Nabawi p.181)
Saaiduna Anas Ibn Malik Radiallahu narrates that the Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam said ‘none of you would come to his wife like an animal; but rather there should be between them a messenger. It was said, “What is the messenger O Prophet of Allah?” He replied “Kissing and words” ’ (Imam Ghazali in his Ihya Ulumud Din and Imam Daylami in his Musnadul Firdaws)
It is stated in Fatawa Hindiyyah that Imam Abu Yusuf (RA) said: “I asked Imam Abu Hanifa (RA) regarding a man who strokes his wife’s vagina and she strokes his penis in order that he gets an erection, do you see any wrong in that?” He replied, “No, rather I am confident that one will be rewarded for doing so.” ’ (Fatawa Hindiyyah p.328 v.5)
Moreover, it is permissible for the husband to insert his fingers in his wife’s vagina so that she may reach orgasm and likewise for the wife to use her hands to masturbate her husband. (Raddul Muhtar p.371 v.3)
Licking the clitoral area may lead to the semen (Mani) or pre-ejaculatory fluid (Madhi) being mixed with the man’s saliva, thus, making it impermissible. (Fatawa Rahimiyah p.270 v.6 & Fatawa Hindiyya p.372 v.5)
However, if the act consists of the husband kissing her genitals and he avoids any areas where there is pre-ejaculatory fluid, then there is a difference of opinion. Some scholars say that it will be permissible (Mubah), although disliked whilst others say it will still remain Makruh (disliked). (See Fatawa Rahimiyah p.406 v.9)
Only Allah Knows Best
Written by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
