Is Saying ‘Loving One’s Wife’ Incorrect in the Shar’i Point of View?

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Fatwa ID: 03879

Answered by: Maulana Nabil Khan



Do any scholars hold the opinion that saying things like "loving one's wife" isn't correct in a Shar'ī point of view? And that it is also somehow against the islāh mentioned in: 

إن يريدا إصلاحا يوفق الله بينهما

This is not my opinion. I just heard this from a very high profile 'Ālim, and was surprised, as I have not heard this before and especially have not seen the Tafsīr of the verse done in such a manner.


بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful



Unfortunately, there is not much context to how the scholar stated this and the background therefore it could have been misunderstood.

However, if this is what was meant, then this is completely incorrect. Allah says in the Quran “And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.”[1] The word love is clearly mentioned in this verse in reference to marriage.

Also, in the authentic hadith when the Prophet (saw) was asked who the most beloved person to Him was, He said, “Aisha (RA).” And Aisha (RA) was the wife of the Prophet (saw).[2]



Only Allah knows best

Written by Maulana Nabil Khan

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham



[1] Surah Rum, Verse 21


[2] Ibn Majah #83


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