Fatwa ID: 02874

Answered by:  Maulana Muddasser Dhedhy

Question:

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah

I have a question regarding a Nikkah. I have been in a haram relationship with a female and wanted to make things right.

We have told our parents and they have approved of the relationship but have said to do an engagement only without Nikkah as they do not approve of carrying out a Nikkah whilst both of us live separately. 

So we have been told to wait until we finish studying and then only Nikkah can happen. We still have a few years left to study so the Nikkah is not going to happen anytime soon. I wanted to know if it is permissible to do the Nikkah without our parents knowing at all as I will still be in contact with this girl and want to avoid any sin.

Brother and father girl has accepted the relationship but not to Nikkah at the moment. They want to wait until we finish studying. So will this be possible to do Nikkah without girls wali? Because someone had said an imaam can act as wali if the girls brother or dad don't agree.

    بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم

In the name of ALLAH the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.

Answer:

If one is afraid of committing sin and is able to marry then it becomes wajib upon them to marry now.^[1]

The nikah of a mature woman (baaligah) who gets married without a guardian (wali) is valid provided that it is done in Kuf’ (i.e. with a man that is similar to her in lineage, adherence to Islam and profession).^[2]

In this situation, you should try to explain to your parents and be open with them and express your concern about falling into greater sin. You should also speak to an influential member of the family to convince your family to have the Nikah done as soon as possible.

Only Allah SWT alone knows best.

Written by Maulana Mudasser Dhedhy

Checked and approved by Mufti Eunus Ali

Darul Ifta Birmingham