Fatwa ID: 02754
Answered by: Maulana Muddasser Dhedhy
Question
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah,
If prior to the wedding, I had physical contact with my "now wife", would I be accountable for it? In terms of punishment mentioned in Islam, what is the punishment?
بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
Answer:
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakaatuh,
In Islam, a woman becomes one’s wife after the Nikah; comprising of I’jaab (offer) and Qubool (acceptance) in the presence of witnesses and usually, an Imam or marriage celebrant has taken place.[1] Some cultures have a separate event called 'Rukhsati' which takes place sometime after the Nikaah. It is after this event that the husband and wife start living together.
In your question, if by ‘wedding’ you mean Rukhsati and the physical contact you had with your wife took place after the nikah, then you have not violated any rules of the Shariah.
However, if by wedding you mean the Nikah ceremony, then you have both committed a major sin for which you both must seek sincere forgiveness. However, this act that was committed prior to Nikaah will not affect your marriage now.[2]
Only Allah knows best
Written by Maulana Muddasser Dhedhy
Checked and approved by Aalimah Sabrina al-Faarsiyyah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
[1] (قَوْلُهُ: وَيَنْعَقِدُ بِإِيجَابٍ، وَقَبُولٍ وُضِعَا لِلْمُضِيِّ أَوْ أَحَدِهِمَا) أَيْ يَنْعَقِدُ النِّكَاحُ أَيْ ذَلِكَ الْعَقْدُ الْخَاصُّ يَنْعَقِدُ بِالْإِيجَابِ وَالْقَبُولِ حَتَّى يَتِمُّ حَقِيقَةً فِي الْوُجُودِ وَالِانْعِقَادُ هُوَ ارْتِبَاطُ أَحَدِ الْكَلَامَيْنِ بِالْآخَرِ عَلَى وَجْهٍ يُسَمَّى بِاعْتِبَارِهِ عَقْدًا شَرْعًا وَيَسْتَعْقِبُ الْأَحْكَامَ بِالشَّرَائِطِ الْآتِيَةِ كَذَا قَرَّرَهُ الْكَمَالُ هُنَا، وَقَرَّرَ فِي كِتَابِ الْبَيْعِ مَا يُفِيدُ أَنَّ الْمُرَادَ هُنَا مِنْ الِانْعِقَادِ الثُّبُوتُ، وَأَنَّ الضَّمِيرَ يَعُودُ إلَى النِّكَاحِ بِاعْتِبَارِ حُكْمِهِ فَالْمَعْنَى يَثْبُتُ حُكْمُ النِّكَاحِ بِالْإِيجَابِ وَالْقَبُولِ، وَمَقْصُودُهُ فِي الْبَابَيْنِ تَحْقِيقُ أَنَّ الْإِيجَابَ مَعَ الْقَبُولِ عَيْنُ الْعَقْدِ لَا غَيْرُهُ كَمَا يُفْهَمُ مِنْ ظَاهِرِ الْعِبَارَةِ وَالْحَقُّ أَنَّ الْعَقْدَ مَجْمُوعُ ثَلَاثَةٍ الْإِيجَابُ وَالْقَبُولُ وَالِارْتِبَاطُ الشَّرْعِيُّ فَلَمْ يَكُنْ الْإِيجَابُ وَالْقَبُولُ عَيْنَ الْعَقْدِ؛ لِأَنَّ جُزْءَ الشَّيْءِ لَيْسَ عَيْنَهُ وَسَيَأْتِي تَمَامُهُ فِي الْبَيْعِ إنْ شَاءَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى (البحر الرائق ج 8 ص 321. مكتبة رشيدية)
[2](وَ) صَحَّ نِكَاحُ (حُبْلَى مِنْ زِنًى لَا) حُبْلَى (مِنْ غَيْرِهِ) أَيْ الزِّنَى لِثُبُوتِ نَسَبِهِ وَلَوْ مِنْ حَرْبِيٍّ أَوْ سَيِّدِهَا الْمُقِرِّ بِهِ (وَإِنْ حَرُمَ وَطْؤُهَا) وَدَوَاعِيهِ (حَتَّى تَضَعَ) مُتَّصِلٌ بِالْمَسْأَلَةِ الْأُولَى لِئَلَّا يَسْقِيَ مَاءَهُ زَرْعَ غَيْرِهِ إذْ الشَّعْرُ يَنْبُتُ مِنْهُ. لَوْ نَكَحَهَا الزَّانِي حَلَّ لَهُ وَطْؤُهَا اتِّفَاقًا وَالْوَلَدُ لَهُ وَلَزِمَهُ النَّفَقَةُ (رد المحتار ج 4 ص 141-142. دار الكتب العلمية)
اب كى مسائل اور ان كا حل ج 6 ص 85-86. مكتبة لدهيانوى
