Fatwa ID: 06420

 

Answered by: Maulana Nazrul Islam

 

Question:

 

I am 37 years old female divorcee I did secret Nikah with a boy who lives in a different city and is younger than me.

 

There were two of his friends present he accepted me as his wife by Making Allah witness and those two gentlemen who were adults and Muslims, one of his family friends, and some of my friends also know of this Nikah.

 

But soon I found the husband is cheating on me, he abused me physically but then said sorry, he doesn’t spend on me, he gives me emotional stress, he has also given me two divorces

 

And ready to let go of me the third time if I demand to make this nikah popular or I tell him to leave his girlfriend

 

Kindly guide me on what am i supposed to do I feel I can also not remain loyal to this long-distance one-sided toxic relationship

 

 

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

 

Answer:

 

Marriage is a celebration of two people coming together lawfully, and it is important that it is made public for many reasons. (1)

 

By making the Nikah public you will be receiving the honor of being a wife in society, also he’ll take the obligation of fulfilling your responsibilities more seriously.

 

It is best that you tell your family about this marriage and seek their guidance and counsel.

 

Make Salatul Istikharah (Ask Allah to guide you by reciting this Dua after you pray two Rakat Salah “اللهم خر لي واختر لي” “O Allah, make it good for me and choose for me”).

 

Seek guidance from your local scholars and try professional counseling. (2)

 

Our religion wants us to cut out those things that are going to affect our physical, spiritual, and mental well-being. (3)

 

 

Only Allah knows best.

Written by Maulana Nazrul Islam

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham

 

 

 

 

 

 

(1)وَعَنْ عَامِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اَللَّهِ بْنِ اَلزُّبَيْرِ , عَنْ أَبِيهِ ; أَنَّ رَسُولَ اَللَّهِ ‏- صلى الله عليه وسلم ‏-قَالَ : { أَعْلِنُوا اَلنِّكَاحَ } رَوَاهُ أَحْمَدُ , وَصَحَّحَهُ اَلْحَاكِمُ 1‏ .‏

 

‏.‏ رواه أحمد (4 /5 )‏ ، والحاكم (283 )‏ بسند حسن ، وله شواهد أخرى مذكورة “بالأصل“.‏

 

 

(2)وَمَا أَرْسَلْنَا مِن قَبْلِكَ إِلَّا رِجَالًا نُّوحِي إِلَيْهِمْ ۚ فَاسْأَلُوا أَهْلَ الذِّكْرِ إِن كُنتُمْ لَا تَعْلَمُونَ (43)

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