Fatwa ID: 02595

Answered by: Maulana Muhammad Adnan

Question

I have a question regarding nikah please do reply me I anxiously need an answer. I'm 30 years old Muslim I'm living alone in Ireland for 1 year. My family didn't think of my marriage my father is alive Alhamdulilah. One Muslim man sends a message of nikkah several times and I know him too. My father knows him and meets him but he's not serious for my marriage. I want to save my deen and want a halal relation with him. Please tell me what should I do now? How to convince my father. Please please do reply me, please

Answer

Your attitude toward nikaah is commendable. You should maybe try to speak to your mother and tell her to speak to your father. You should also give your mother literature about nikaah and tell her to give your father. Make lots of duaa also and perform istikhaarah. After istikhaarah you should speak to your father again and tell him the outcome.

Narrated Jabir bin 'Abdullah :

The Prophet (Peace be upon him) used to teach us the way of doing Istikhara (Istikhara means to ask Allah to guide one to the right sort of action concerning any job or a deed), in all matters as he taught us the Suras of the Quran. He said, "If anyone of you thinks of doing any job he should offer a two Rakat prayer other than the compulsory ones and say (after the prayer): — 'Allahumma inni astakhiruka bi'ilmika, Wa astaqdiruka bi-qudratika, Wa as'alaka min fadlika al-'azlm Fa-innaka taqdiru Wala aqdiru, Wa ta'lamu Wala a'lamu, Wa anta 'allamu l-ghuyub. Allahumma, in kunta ta'lam anna hadha-l-amra Khairun li fi dini wa ma'ashi wa'aqibati amri (or 'ajili amri wa'ajilihi) Faqdirhu wa yas–sirhu li thumma barik li Fihi, Wa in kunta ta'lamu anna hadha-lamra shar-run li fi dini wa ma'ashi wa'aqibati amri (or fi'ajili amri wa ajilihi) Fasrifhu anni was-rifni anhu. Waqdir li al-khaira haithu kana Thumma ardini bihi.' (O Allah! I ask guidance from Your knowledge, And Power from Your Might and I ask for Your great blessings. You are capable and I am not. You know and I do not and You know the unseen. O Allah! If You know that this job is good for my religion and my subsistence and in my Hereafter–(or said: If it is better for my present and later needs)–Then You ordain it for me and make it easy for me to get, And then bless me in it, and if You know that this job is harmful to me In my religion and subsistence and in the Hereafter–(or said: If it is worse for my present and later needs)–Then keep it away from me and let me be away from it. And ordain for me whatever is good for me, And make me satisfied with it). The Prophet added that then the person should name (mention) his need.

(Bukhari H263)

Written by Maulana Muhammad Adnan

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

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