Fatwa ID: 08254
Answered by Alimah Humairah Badshah
Question:
I am currently a divorcee, it was a process that was instigated by a lot of emotion and 10 days in after talaq was given. My ex spouse and I had gotten back into contact and realised there was regret in this decision and we truly wanted to remain married. We still loved, trusted and respected one another. My wali did not approve and I was being told by everyone I would be destroying my parents, I wouldn’t be forgiven by Allah, my marriage would have no baraqah, my children will affected by my family’s anger and pain. I was and still so vulnerable, I was put in the middle and I was told constantly I’d be disowned. So many things occurred, they did not want me to reconcile even though my husband and I had said we take each other back. So many things occurred Subhan’Allah. I wanted to leave and I wasn’t allowed. But alhumdulilah I still have hope in Allah, He will give me what I want and better. My Iddah has finished and things were left between my ex spouse and I on the basis to just keep making dua as impossible it might seem. Allahu Alim.
Can a couple remarry again after 1 talaq? What is said in the Quran about marrying after talaq, how can a wali be convinced? How can we as daughters soften our Wali’s hearts towards this decision, it has been like this for almost 5-6 months, nothing has changed for me, I believe people can change for Allah and this indeed happened with my spouse. What can I do islamically? Alhumdulilah my faith has strengthened I’ve been told it could just be emotions but it is not, I have lived 5 months away from seeing my spouse and have gone back to work and trying to live a normal life. I still very much want to my spouse back. What can I do to convince my wali?
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Answer:
In Surah Al-Baqarah, Allah (عز و جل) says: {Divorce can happen twice, and [each time] wives either be kept on in an acceptable manner or released in a good way.}
In Surah At-Talaq, Allah (عز و جل) says: {When they have completed their appointed term, either keep them honourably, or part with them honourably. Call two just witnesses from your people and establish witness for the sake of God. Anyone who believes in God and the Last Day should heed this: God will find a way out for those who are mindful of Him…} {…and will provide for them from an unexpected source; God will be enough for those who put their trust in Him. God achieves His purpose; God has set a due measure for everything.}
There is no problem with a couple remarrying after a single divorce. Since the iddah has ended, a new nikah would have to be performed. While it would be better for a woman to have a wali, it is not strictly necessary.
However, it is also important for one to causing harm to one’s parents where possible, since this is a major sin. It may be wiser for one to avoid a marriage which will threaten one’s family bonds. On the other hand, one must also consider one’s children, and also consider one’s own mental health and whether one will fall into haram if prevented from the marriage.
It may be helpful for the prospective husband to consult a local scholar (specifically one whom the wali respects or has an existing relationship with if possible) for their opinion and see if they are willing to intercede on his behalf. Another option may be for the prospective husband to try and communicate personally with the wali and express his regret and sincerity.
Only Allah (عز و جل) knows best.
Written by Alimah Humairah Badshah
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
References:
ٱلطَّلَـٰقُ مَرَّتَانِ ۖ فَإِمْسَاكٌۢ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ تَسْرِيحٌۢ بِإِحْسَـٰنٍۢ ۗ وَلَا يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَأْخُذُوا۟ مِمَّآ ءَاتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ شَيْـًٔا إِلَّآ أَن يَخَافَآ أَلَّا يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ ٱللَّهِ ۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ ٱللَّهِ فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا فِيمَا ٱفْتَدَتْ بِهِۦ ۗ تِلْكَ حُدُودُ ٱللَّهِ فَلَا تَعْتَدُوهَا ۚ وَمَن يَتَعَدَّ حُدُودَ ٱللَّهِ فَأُو۟لَـٰٓئِكَ هُمُ ٱلظَّـٰلِمُونَ
Surah Al-Baqarah 2:229
فَإِذَا بَلَغْنَ أَجَلَهُنَّ فَأَمْسِكُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍ أَوْ فَارِقُوهُنَّ بِمَعْرُوفٍۢ وَأَشْهِدُوا۟ ذَوَىْ عَدْلٍۢ مِّنكُمْ وَأَقِيمُوا۟ ٱلشَّهَـٰدَةَ لِلَّهِ ۚ ذَٰلِكُمْ يُوعَظُ بِهِۦ مَن كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِٱللَّهِ وَٱلْيَوْمِ ٱلْـَٔاخِرِ ۚ وَمَن يَتَّقِ ٱللَّهَ يَجْعَل لَّهُۥ مَخْرَجًۭا
وَيَرْزُقْهُ مِنْ حَيْثُ لَا يَحْتَسِبُ ۚ وَمَن يَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ فَهُوَ حَسْبُهُۥٓ ۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ بَـٰلِغُ أَمْرِهِۦ ۚ قَدْ جَعَلَ ٱللَّهُ لِكُلِّ شَىْءٍۢ قَدْرًۭا
Surah At-Talaq [65:2-3]
الْقِسْمُ التَّاسِعُ الْمُحَرَّمَاتُ بِالطَّلْقَاتِ) . لَا يَحِلُّ لِلرَّجُلِ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَ حُرَّةً طَلَّقَهَا ثَلَاثًا قَبْلَ إصَابَةِ الزَّوْجِ الثَّانِي وَلَا أَمَةً طَلَّقَهَا ثِنْتَيْنِ وَكَمَا لَا يَجُوزُ لَهُ نِكَاحُهَا لَا يَحِلُّ لَهُ وَطْؤُهَا بِمِلْكِ الْيَمِينِ، كَذَا فِي فَتَاوَى قَاضِي خَانْ. وَلَوْ تَزَوَّجَ أَمَةً ثُمَّ طَلَّقَهَا ثِنْتَيْنِ ثُمَّ اشْتَرَاهَا وَأَعْتَقَهَا لَا يَحِلُّ لَهُ أَنْ يَتَزَوَّجَهَا حَتَّى تَتَزَوَّجَ غَيْرَهُ وَيَطَأَهَا وَيُطَلِّقَهَا وَتَنْقَضِيَ عِدَّتُهَا، كَذَا فِي السِّرَاجِ الْوَهَّاجِ
Al-Fataawa Al-Hindiyyah (Daar Al-Fikr, https://shamela.ws) v.1 p.282
فَإِنَّ حَاصِلَهُ: أَنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ إذَا زَوَّجَتْ نَفْسَهَا مِنْ كُفْءٍ لَزِمَ عَلَى الْأَوْلِيَاءِ وَإِنْ زَوَّجَتْ مِنْ غَيْرِ كُفْءٍ لَا يَلْزَمُ
Radd Al-Muhtaar (Halabi ed., Daar Al-Fikr, https://shamela.ws) v.3 p.84
(بِعَدَمِ جَوَازِهِ أَصْلًا) وَهُوَ الْمُخْتَارُ لِلْفَتْوَى (لِفَسَادِ الزَّمَانِ)
Radd Al-Muhtaar (Halabi ed., Daar Al-Fikr, https://shamela.ws) v.3 p.57
وَأَمَّا وِلَايَةُ النَّدْبِ وَالِاسْتِحْبَابِ فَهِيَ: الْوِلَايَةُ عَلَى الْحُرَّةِ الْبَالِغَةِ الْعَاقِلَةِ بِكْرًا كَانَتْ أَوْ ثَيِّبًا
Badaai’ Al-Sanaai’ (Daar Al-Kutub Al-‘Ilmiyyah, https://shamela.ws) v.2 p.247
ذكر مَا يُسْتَفَاد مِنْهُ:فِيهِ: ذكر السَّبع، وَلَا يُنَافِي أَن لَا تكون كَبِيرَة إلَاّ هَذِه، فقد ذكر فِي غير هَذَا الْموضع:قَول الزُّور، وزنا الرجل بحليلة جَاره وعقوق الْوَالِدين، وَالْيَمِين الْغمُوس، وَاسْتِحْلَال بَيت الله، ومسك امْرَأَة مُحصنَة لمن يَزْنِي بهَا، ومسك مُسلم لمن يقْتله، وَدلّ الْكفَّار على عورات الْمُسلمين مَعَ علمه أَنهم يستأصلون بدلالته ويُسبون ويغنمون، وَالْحكم بِغَيْر حق، والإصرار على الصَّغِيرَة.
Kitaab Umdat Al-Qaari (Daar Al-Fikr, https://shamela.ws) v.14 p.62
