Fatwa ID: 07150
Answered by: Maulana Abdul Malik
Question:
My faith just keeps on decreasing because I feel that because of my gender (which is something I cannot control), I will forever be viewed as inferior and lesser value. Allah seems to favour men in almost everything. For example, men have hoor alyn and many other rewards, whereas women only get object rewards. and according to many narrations hoor alyn are right now even before men have made it to paradise, they are yearning for them and wishing for them to be with them. but women seem to only get object based rewards, I m not saying that women too should have hoor alyn, but what I am saying is just as right now men have mates and people which are hoor alyn who are wishing for men to come, why can’t there at least be some form of creations like a heavily freinds made for women are are right now in paradise wishing for women to come to paradise. Hoor alyn also get upset when there husbands are abused, hoor alyn say The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “Whenever a woman harms her husband in this world (that is without any due right), his wife among the (Houris in Jannah) says: ‘You must not harm him. May Allah destroy you! He is only a passing guest with you and is about to leave you to come to us”. but how about women why they are abused, there is no one in paradise saying that, as women only get objects and thus unlike men, when women are abused there is no heavenly creation there to pray against abusive husbands. it just does not seem fair to me that if i was to get married and get abused that there would be no one in paradise praying against my abusive husband, but if i was to be the one who is abusive then in paradise there is people to pray against me. and if i were a man then I would have heavenly people in paradise really wanting me to come and spend time with me, but since I am a woman there is no heavily mates/friends who want to come and care if i get abused. Men never have to worry about getting discriminated in rewards because the Quran mentions hoor alyn which are exclusive to them, but the Quran has to verses that promise women exclusive rewards to their gender only just like it does for men. It really hurts when i have to live with the fact that if i were a man then in heaven right now there is people wishing me to be with them , but since I am a woman I know that there is no heavily mates doing the same nor if i were in an abusive relationship there is people in heaven who are praying against abusive husband. I just feel that men are cared about so so much to the extend that only they have people who care about them in heaven right now.
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Answer:
All of the inmates of paradise will have all of their desires and wishes fulfilled, both males and females.
Allah states in the Holy Quran; “There you will have whatever your souls desire, and there you will have whatever you ask for.
An accommodation from the All-Forgiving, Most Merciful (Lord).” (Quran, 41:31-32)
It is not correct to perceive that men will be favoured above women in paradise.
Those men who are admitted into paradise will be given maidens in paradise along with their wives of this world known as hoor- al- ayn. This is a reward from Allah the exalted. It is important to note that there will be no jealousy or ill feelings in paradise and the inmates of paradise will live in harmony. Also the women of this world will be superior to the women of paradise so, there is no need to be jealous in this world. We will not be able to fully comprehend paradise until we enter Paradise.
Mu’adh bin Jabal narrated that The Prophet said:
“No woman annoys her husband in the world except that his wife among the Al-Huril-Ain said: ‘Do not annoy him, may Allah destroy you, he is only like a guest with, soon he will part from you for us.’” (Sunan Tirmdhi, hadith # 1174)
With regards to the above narration, please keep in mind that Allah has prohibited abuse and mistreatment between spouses, both husband and wives are commanded not to abuse each other. They are instructed to treat each other as a garment, and both will be held accountable for their responsibilities in their marriage. A marriage is built upon mercy, trust, kindness, respect, and support.
With regards to the rewards in paradise one should be patient and have firm belief in the promises of Allah. Know that Allah is just and he would not be unjust to his creations in anyway.
عَنْ مُعَاذِ بْنِ جَبَلٍ، عَنِ النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم قَالَ “ لاَ تُؤْذِي امْرَأَةٌ زَوْجَهَا فِي الدُّنْيَا إِلاَّ قَالَتْ زَوْجَتُهُ مِنَ الْحُورِ الْعِينِ لاَ تُؤْذِيهِ قَاتَلَكِ اللَّهُ فَإِنَّمَا هُوَ عِنْدَكِ دَخِيلٌ يُوشِكُ أَنْ يُفَارِقَكِ إِلَيْنَا ” . قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَى هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ غَرِيبٌ لاَ نَعْرِفُهُ إِلاَّ مِنْ هَذَا الْوَجْهِ . وَرِوَايَةُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنِ عَيَّاشٍ عَنِ الشَّامِيِّينَ أَصْلَحُ وَلَهُ عَنْ أَهْلِ الْحِجَازِ وَأَهْلِ الْعِرَاقِ مَنَاكِيرُ .
Only Allah (عز و جل) knows best.
Written by Maulana Abdul Malik
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
