Fatwa ID: 08713

 

 

Answered by: Maulana Sakib Shadman

 

Question:

 

I had given money to my 17 year old daughter to buy something from the market. I was waiting for her in the car. When she returned, she gave me the balance money. Since I was in the front seat and she was in the back seat, I opened my palm by putting it behind and she put the remaining on it. But as soon as she put the money, I could feel the heat of her hand and then I started feeling lustful thoughts. I quickly withdrew my hand.

 

So does the Hurmat Musaharah apply in this?

 

 

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

 

 

Answer:

 

Firstly, you should repent to Allah Ta’ala and seek refuge from the Shaytan due to experiencing lustful thoughts when your daughter’s hand made contact with your hand.

 

Hurmat Musaharah causes certain relatives of each party to become Haram upon the other when one touches someone else with lust.

 

However there are certain conditions that have to be met for Hurmat Musaharah to take effect, including;

 

• The lust (شَهْوَة) needs to be felt at the time of touching and not afterwards.
• Simply experiencing lustful thoughts at the time of touching will not establish Hurmat Musaharah. Rather, the lust has to be such that ones penis becomes erect. If one’s penis is already aroused, the arousal needs to increase for Hurmatul Musaharah to take effect. For an old man who cannot become erect, his heart needs to experience a stirring up of desire/lust.

 

In your situation, it seems as though lust was experienced at the time of touching. Nevertheless, if you did not experience an erection (and you simply experienced lustful thoughts), then Hurmatul Musaharah will NOT be established. However if you did become erect, then Hurmatul Musaharah will be established, which would in turn nullify your Nikah with the mother of your daughter (assuming you are still married to her mother).

 

 

References:

 

(وَأَصْلُ مَاسَّتِهِ وَنَاظِرَةٍ إلَى ذَكَرِهِ وَالْمَنْظُورُ إلَى فَرْجِهَا) الْمُدَوَّرِ (الدَّاخِلِ) وَلَوْ نَظَرَهُ مِنْ زُجَاجٍ أَوْ مَاءٍ هِيَ فِيهِ (وَفُرُوعُهُنَّ) مُطْلَقًا وَالْعِبْرَةُ لِلشَّهْوَةِ عِنْدَ الْمَسِّ وَالنَّظَرِ لَا بَعْدَهُمَا وَحَدُّهَا فِيهِمَا تَحَرُّكُ آلَتِهِ أَوْ زِيَادَتُهُ بِهِ يُفْتَى وَفِي امْرَأَةٍ وَنَحْوِ شَيْخٍ كَبِيرٍ تَحَرَّكَ قُبُلُهُ أَوْ زِيَادَتُهُ وَفِي الْجَوْهَرَةِ: لَا يُشْتَرَطُ فِي النَّظَرِ لِفَرْجٍ تَحْرِيكُ آلَتِهِ بِهِ يُفْتَى هَذَا إذَا لَمْ يُنْزِلْ فَلَوْ أَنْزَلَ مَعَ مَسٍّ أَوْ نَظَرٍ فَلَا حُرْمَةَ بِهِ يُفْتِي

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وَأَطْلَقَ فِي اللَّمْسِ وَالنَّظَرِ بِشَهْوَةٍ، فَأَفَادَ إنَّهُ لَا فَرْقَ بَيْنَ الْعَمْدِ وَالْخَطَأِ وَالنِّسْيَانِ وَالْإِكْرَاهِ حَتَّى لَوْ أَيْقَظَ زَوْجَتَهُ لِيُجَامِعَهَا فَوَصَلَتْ يَدُهُ إلَى بِنْتِهِ مِنْهَا فَقَرَصَهَا بِشَهْوَةٍ وَهِيَ تُشْتَهَى يَظُنُّ أَنَّهَا أُمُّهَا حَرُمَتْ عَلَيْهِ الْأُمُّ حُرْمَةً مُؤَبَّدَةً، وَلَك أَنْ تَصَوَّرَهَا مِنْ جَانِبِهَا بِأَنْ أَيْقَظَتْهُ هِيَ لِذَلِكَ فَقَرَصَتْ ابْنَهُ مِنْ غَيْرِهَا كَذَا فِي فَتْحِ الْقَدِيرِ وَأَطْلَقَ فِي اللَّمْسِ فَشَمِلَ كُلَّ مَوْضِعٍ مِنْ بَدَنِهَا وَفِي الْخَانِيَّةِ لَوْ مَسَّ شَعْرَ امْرَأَةٍ عَنْ شَهْوَةٍ قَالُوا: لَا تَثْبُتُ حُرْمَةُ الْمُصَاهَرَةِ، وَذَكَرَ فِي الْكَيْسَانِيَّاتِ أَنَّهَا تَثْبُتُ اهـ.

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ص107 – كتاب البحر الرائق شرح كنز الدقائق ومنحة الخالق وتكملة الطوري – فصل في المحرمات في النكاح – المكتبة الشاملة

 

قَالَ (وَلَا بِأُمِّ امْرَأَتِهِ الَّتِي دَخَلَ بِهَا أَوْ لَمْ يَدْخُلْ) لِقَوْلِهِ تَعَالَى ﴿وَأُمَّهَاتُ نِسَائِكُمْ﴾

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ص209 – كتاب العناية شرح الهداية بهامش فتح القدير ط الحلبي – فصل في بيان المحرمات – المكتبة الشاملة

 

 

Only Allah (عز و جل) knows best.

Written by Maulana Sakib Shadman

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham