Fatwa ID: 01849
Answered by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Question:
I went to join my wife who was already asleep we both got intimate afterwards my wife was upset for some unknown reason she claimed I was only fulfilling my desire I know in my heart that we were both intimate anyway she was angry and started to badmouth me I also got hurt with her claims of me using her. She said "don’t touch me" to which I replied "don’t worry I will never come near you again" We are both worried what are the implications obviously I did not mean divorce or never have sexual relation with her and she also feels the same but I am concerned with the words I uttered.
Answer:
Allah 
in the Holy Qur’an has said:
‘Those who swear to abstain from their wives have four months of waiting. Therefore, if they revert back, Allah is Most-Forgiving, Very Merciful. And if they resolve to divorce, Allah is All-Hearing, All-Knowing.’ (Surah Baqarah v.226-v.227)
If someone takes an oath that he will not have sexual intercourse with his wife, there are four situations:
- No time limit was fixed.
- A time limit of four months was fixed
- A time limit of more than four months was fixed
- A time limit of less than four months
The first three situations are termed in Shariah as ‘Ilah’. If the oath-taker breaks this oath within four months and resumes sexual intercourse with his wife, he will have to come up with the kaffarah for his oath while his nikah remains intact. If the time limit of four months did expire and the oath-taker did not break his oath, a talaq baain will occur. The husband and wife can get back together if a new nikah is done.
Regarding the fourth situation, if the oath is broken, kaffarah will have to be given and if the oath is completed, the marriage will remain valid. (Maariful Quran p.563 v.2)
Finally, the kaffarah one has to give is that of breaking an oath. (Hidayah p.401 v.2)
The Kaffrah (Explation) of breaking an oath is mentioned in the Holy Quran Allah says;
“…Its expiation is to feed ten poor person at an average of what you feed your family with or to clothe them or to free a slave. And whoever, finds none shall fast for three days. That is expiation for you oaths when you have sworn…”(Surah Maaidah v.89)
In this verse the first expiation used in connection with Kaffarah of oaths is “itam” which could either mean ‘feed’ or ‘give food’ to someone, hence the jurists have said that the individuals can invite ten poor persons and feed them or he can give the food in their possession. In the first situation, it is necessary that he should feed ten poor persons two meals of the day to take their fill and in the second situation he should give to each of the ten poor persons at the rate of one fitrah per person, that is,
1. Approximately 1.6kg of wheat
2. Approximately 3.2kg of barley
3. Or the equivalent of the above in cash which will be between £1-£3
If a person is unable to feed the poor then he would fasts for three days consecutively according to the Hanafi Fiqh. (Raddul Muhtar p.532 v.2 & Maariful Quran p.244 v.3)
A final ruling is that a Kaffrah given before breaking of the oath will not be valid. The reason is that he course which makes kaffarh necessary lies in the breaking of the oath. As long as the oath does not break kaffarah will not be necessary. (Maariful Quran p.245 v.3)
With regards to your question, one of the requirements for Ilah to be done is that there has to be an oath. In your statement an oath has not been said therefore, an Ilah will not be done.
Only Allah Knows Best
Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
