Fatwa ID: 04494

Answered by: Maulana Mubarak Patel

Question:

It's been 4 years of marriage. Life has been fine and alhamdulillah all these years. We have been blessed with a 3year old baby boy. It's been a year since I and my husband have been facing a very tough time and our marriage was all about to end. I have been trying to give my best to sort things out with my husband with the help of almighty, but I still couldn't. I do strongly believe My Rabb has promised me to ease not just once but twice. Whenever I feel like giving it up I put these verses back on my mind to calm me down. I and my husband don't see and talk to each other. We live together with my in-laws. I used to cook for him and satisfy all his daily needs. But we don't see each other. He is not ready to face me. My question is that, does this nullify our marriage? Not seeing and talking to each other in spite of being under one roof. What does Islam say about a misunderstanding between husband and wife? Please explain.

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

Answer:

Misunderstandings between the husband and wife are common and happen in every marriage. The key thing to remember is communication. You and your husband must sit down and sort out the differences. Not seeing and talking to each other does not nullify the marriage.

It is important both of you sit down and discuss the issues. Find out what the problems are and together find a solution. If this doesn’t help, then as the Qur’an states, get a reliable family member who is impartial from both sides and discuss the issue. Sit down with a reputable Aalim and discuss the issue. You can even try marriage counseling.

The problem can be fixed. As you rightly quoted the Ayah, ‘Verily after hardship there is ease’. Continue to make dua to Allah and keep your faith in him.

Another way to rekindle the happiness in your marriage is to do things together. Go out somewhere, just the two of you. Do something together you both enjoy. Remind each other that it is very important to move on and look forward.

I pray Allah makes your situation easy.

References:

Quran, Surah Nisaa, Ayah 35

Only Allah knows best

Written by Maulana Mubarak Patel

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham