{"id":22465,"date":"2021-12-31T14:51:43","date_gmt":"2021-12-31T14:51:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/?p=22465"},"modified":"2021-12-31T14:51:43","modified_gmt":"2021-12-31T14:51:43","slug":"parents-are-not-making-any-decisions-about-proposals-for-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/parents-are-not-making-any-decisions-about-proposals-for-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Parents Are Not Making Any Decisions About Proposals for Marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><strong>Fatwa ID: 05689<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><strong>Answered by: Mufti Jamal Ahmed<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><strong><u>Question:<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">I am 27 years old. I have many proposals but my parents did not take any decision. They do not have decision power. I want to know something\u00a0which can help me. thanks<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><strong>In the name of Allah the most Beneficent, the Most Merciful<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\"><strong>Answer<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">If you do the following things it may help you with decision making.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">You should remember that when choosing a spouse you should give preference to religiosity and good morals. For example, One prospect is very rich and handsome but he is not religious, however, the other prospect is not as rich and handsome as the first one but he is religious and has good morals then the latter is the ideal spouse.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">\u201cAbu Hurairah, may Allah be pleased with him, says that the messenger of Allah has said \u201ca woman is married for four (reasons): her wealth, noble ancestry, beauty and religion. Choose the religious woman lest your hand is stuck to dust (because of destitution).\u201d [Al-Bukhari and Muslim] Mishkat, pg. 568, vol.1, Hadith no. 3082.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Make Istikharah.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Istikhara means to seek goodness in a matter you intend to do, whatever seems right for you after the istikahra you should proceed with it. If you are unable to make a decision you can repeat the procedure up to seven times.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">When you want to do istikhara read two rakats of nafl salah and praise Allah and send blessings upon the Prophet then read the following dua:<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">\u2018Allahumma inni astakhiruka bi\u2019ilmika, Wa astaqdiruka bi-qudratika, Wa as\u2019alaka min fadlikal-\u2018azeem Fa-innaka taqdiru Wala aqdiru, Wata\u2019lamu Wala a\u2019lamu, Wa anta \u2018allamu l-ghuyub. Allahumma, in kunta ta\u2019lam anna hadha-l-amra Khairun li fi diniwama\u2019ashi wa\u2019aqibati amri (or \u2018ajili amri wa\u2019ajilihi) Faqdirhu wa yas-sirhu li thumma barik li Fihi, Wa in kunta ta\u2019lamu anna hadha-lamra shar-run li fi dini wama\u2019ashi wa\u2019aqibati amri (or fi\u2019ajili amri waajilihi) Fasrifhu anni was-rifni anhu. Waqdir li al-khaira haithu kana Thumma ardinibihi.\u2019<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">(O Allah! I ask guidance from Your knowledge, And Power from Your Might and I ask for Your great blessings. You are capable and I am not. You know and I do not and You know the unseen. O, Allah! If You know that this job is good for my religion and my subsistence and in my Hereafter\u2013(or said: If it is better for my present and later needs)\u2013Then You ordain it for me and make it easy for me to get, And then bless me in it, and if You know that this job is harmful to me In my religion and subsistence and in the Hereafter\u2013(or said: If it is worse for my present and later needs)\u2013Then keep it away from me and let me be away from it. And ordain for me whatever is good for me, And make me satisfied with it). The Prophet added that then the person should name (mention) his need. (Sahih Al-Bukhari \u2013 Book 21 Hadith 263)<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">When you reach the words <strong>\u0647\u064e\u0630\u064e\u0627\u0627\u0644\u0652\u0623\u064e\u0645\u0652\u0631\u064e<\/strong> you should think of your need or the matter you doing the istikahra for.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">You can also seek advice from other family members, friends or a good scholar or an Imam, who are sincere and are good in decision making.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Be constant in dua and zikr<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Remember that whatever happens is already decided by Allah<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Only Allah knows best.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Written by Mufti Jamal Ahmed<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-family: verdana, geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 12pt;\">Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Fatwa ID: 05689 &nbsp; Answered by: Mufti Jamal Ahmed &nbsp; Question: &nbsp; I am 27 years old. 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