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Fatwa ID: 06169<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answered by: Maulana Y\u016bsuf Bad\u0101t<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Question:<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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I have severe OCD and taking therapy at this moment. I am medically diagnosed mentally with OCD since 2014. I am always full of doubts.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Does clearing the throat and having a divorce in mind at the same time cause divorce? I never had intentions to give it as I am happy with my wife. I have not tried saying it through clearing my throat but at the same time, I lately get doubts about what if I tried saying it through clearance of my throat. I always say through clearing my throat Bismillah.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Another question is that there was no argument or mention of separation, nothing at all, whilst typing this message, I ended up remembering the divorce word but I did not write the message with intentions but later I get doubts about my intentions. Personally, I do not think they were 100%. That is why I changed the message.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Is this kinaya divorce? Do not stress and try to keep busy. Take Meher out for a walk and just speak to your parents. Clear your mind. Message me. I will reply. I love you. I just hate living there. I did not want to sit downstairs. I had enough of that house, seriously. Let us come back from Pakistan. I will move us from there Insha Allah within a few months.<\/span><\/p>\n

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To clear it up more; It is because I had a few issues at home with my parents etc. nothing serious. My wife was upset last night so I did not want to come to work and keep her by herself at home, so I messaged her. Whilst typing, when I said speak to your parents I 100% meant it, as so it will help her keep her stress free and her mind to stay happy but whilst typing the divorce word came into my head. This happens without me wanting it. There were no intentions but then like I said later I get doubts plus we did not argue. I went to work happily. There were no issues with my wife. We did not argue on text. Nothing at all. I was the first to message her so I told her that. I also told her I did not mean it like that. She understands the divorce word comes to mind when writing the message so I had to add to it for no confusion. I know 100% it did not divorce. It is just my mind playing tricks and makes me think yes it was but I know it was not intended.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Also talking to a work colleague, I said, I want to get married again. No intention of divorce. I just said that everyone dies. No one lives forever and if my wife died would I get married again? Yes, I would however not if I was passed 50 in age. To clear it up, I said that I did not mean the divorce word or separation. There was no intention of divorce. She agreed I did not say anything to hint toward divorce.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answer:<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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The thought of divorce during conversations does not constitute divorce according to Islamic law. In order for the divorce to be effective, the husband must clearly pronounce the words of divorce or intend divorce with words that could constitute a divorce. In the described scenarios, divorce has not taken place. \u2013 (See: Al-Qaw\u0101id Al-Fiqhiyyah, Page 251<\/sup>, D\u0101r Al-Tirmidh\u012b, Rad Al-Mu\u1e25t\u0101r, Vol 3, Page 296, D\u0101r Al-Fikr2<\/sup>, Bad\u0101\u2019i Al-\u1e62an\u0101\u2019i, Vol 3, Page 25, D\u0101r Al-Kutub Al-\u2018Ilm\u012byyah3<\/sup>,)<\/span><\/p>\n

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\u201c\u2018Abd All\u0101h Ibn Yaz\u012bd bin Ruk\u0101nah narrated from his father, from his grandfather (may All\u0101h be pleased with them<\/em>) who said, \u201cO Messenger of All\u0101h! I irrevocably divorced my wife.\u201d So he asked, \u201cWhat did you intend by that?\u201d I replied, \u201cOne (divorce pronouncement).\u201d He then questioned, \u201c[Do you swear] By All\u0101h?\u201d I stated, \u201c[Yes] By All\u0101h.\u201d He clarified, \u201cThen it is as you intended.\u201d \u2013 (Tirmidh\u012b 1177)4<\/sup><\/span><\/p>\n

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Only All\u0101h knows best<\/span><\/p>\n

Written by Maulana Y\u016bsuf Bad\u0101t<\/span><\/p>\n

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/p>\n

Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n

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