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Fatwa ID: 06148<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answered by: Maulana Mohammed Dilwar Hussain<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Question:<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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I am seeking some advice\/guidance on a matter which is causing a lot of problems for my mental well-being due to anxiety. I would be very grateful if you could reply to my message.<\/span><\/p>\n

My wife and I have been married for nearly 3 years Alhamdulillah. Just over a year ago, we had some marital issues and family from both sides became involved. This family involvement caused damage to relations between families and my relations with my wife s family. My wife and I decided to commit to marriage and give it a go. We still have our problems but continue to try.<\/span><\/p>\n

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However, one issue I am struggling with is that my wife asks me to have better communication and relations with her parents and siblings when visiting their house. I have been taking this on board and have been trying. However, whenever I am around my wife’s siblings they always seem to have a negative look on their face, avoid eye contact, barely sit when I am in the room, and talk very little. There are 6 of my wife’s siblings who behave like this. This makes me feel very uneasy, awkward and degrading. My wife says it because of the vibe I give. I have suggested to my wife well if that is the case I am happy to speak to your siblings about this in order to overcome any misunderstandings of any vibes I give and look to clear the air in a calm manner. However, my wife has said she does not want this and if I do this then I should be prepared for an outcome that I won’t like. I am really struggling with this matter and would be very grateful for some advice\/guidance.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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All\u0101h Ta\u2019\u0101l\u0101 has said in the Noble Quran, \u201cFear Allah in whose name you ask each other (for your rights), and fear (the violation of the rights of) the family ties. Surely, Allah is watchful over you.\u201d [Surah An-Nisa; 4:1] [1]<\/span><\/p>\n

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The Prophet \ufdfa said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should serve his guest generously; and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should unite the bond of kinship (i.e. keep good relation with his kith and kin); and whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, should talk what is good or keep quiet.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari; Hadith 6138] [2]<\/span><\/p>\n

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Allah’s Apostle said, “Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life is prolonged then he should keep good relations with his Kith and kin.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari; Hadith 2067, 5985, 5986] [3]<\/span><\/p>\n

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There are dozens more narrations emphasizing the importance of maintaining good family ties and the immense reward in it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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“Allah\u2019s Messenger \ufdfa would face directly with the worst of people, thereby winning their hearts. He used to do the same with me, so that I thought I was the best of the people\u2026 [Shama\u2019il Muhammadiyah; Hadith 343] [4]<\/span><\/p>\n

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The Prophet \ufdfa met the worst of peoples in the best of manners. Through his perfect character and traits, softened their hearts and bought them towards Islam. These are lessons for us to take on how we can be sociable with one another. Through perseverance and endurance while maintaining patience and making dua, In Shaa All\u0101h, All\u0101h will make it easier for you. Whatever barrier has gone up, over time that should soften up.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Only Allah knows best.<\/span><\/p>\n

Written by Maulana Mohammed Dilwar Hussain<\/span><\/p>\n

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/p>\n

Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n

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