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Fatwa ID: 06991<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answered by: Alimah Sherbhanu Jadwat<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Question:<\/u><\/strong>\u00a0<\/em>\u00a0<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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I understand that in Islam that both the husband and the wife have different rights and duties depending on the nature of each, which indeed makes a lot of sense. However, I am seeing things that make me to never what to marry. I am seeing Islamic videos and articles saying that according to the Quran (Surat Yusuf) and hadith (like farewell speech) that a wife in her husband eyes she is like a slave or a captive to him and he to her is a master. She is not a slave in the sense he can sell her, but in all or most the other aspects she is like a captive or a slave to him. is this true? While I understand that slaves, women or anyone else must not be physically or verbally harmed. But no one on the face of earth likes to view as a slave or a captive and have a master. I am not arguing against a woman having to obey her husband in what is reasonable, but why she is like a slave to him and he is like a master. How it is possible that a woman if she knows her position in to him is a slave and his position to her is a master. Why are they not considered in Islam as to life partners, rather than a slave\/master relationship. This makes me to never what to marry, because I do not want to be treated as a slave to another human nor treat someone else as a master, as this will make me feel very bad about myself.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answer:<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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The Only Being we are slaves to is Allah. Neither does the husband own the wife nor does the wife own the husband. Each one in their dealings with each other , or with anyone else , is in fact dealing with Allah.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Allah Himself has beautifully explained the inter-dependent relationship of spouses in the marriage bond \u2018 He is a garment onto her, and she is a garment onto him’. Marriage is thus a place of love and mercy , to \u00a0attain \u00a0mutual physical and \u00a0psychological comfort and to uplift \u00a0each other to progress spiritually and gain closer proximity to Allah.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the farewell sermon, Nabi Sallalaahu alayhi wasallam is in fact warning men not to treat women oppressively , in no way is it enslaving wives.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Nabi Sallalaahu alayhi wasallam was not \u00a0dictatorial, nor had \u00a0expectations from his wives regarding matters not related to their Deen, nor made them feel enslaved. He never demanded his needs but requested \u00a0\u00a0whether a meal was available. The best of all creation assisted his wives in their household chores. He said to the effect, that the best among you are those who are best to their families<\/span><\/p>\n

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It is the natural order of things that there should be a leader or Ameer who makes intelligent decisions in the best interest of all those under his care. The husband is the Ameer who has to maintain and take care of the needs of his family. Men too can\u00a0 feel overwhelmed as they are solely\u00a0 responsible for all financial expences \u00a0and\u00a0 societal pressure to socially support \u00a0their families in a dignified manner.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Usually balanced spouses\u00a0 who are not dysfunctional , or selfish control freaks , discuss issues rationally and make joint decisions together. The husband, being the Ameer and caretaker of the home , makes \u00a0the final decision\u00a0 in the best interests of all his beloved family members.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Only\u00a0Allah\u00a0(\u0639\u0632 \u0648 \u062c\u0644)\u00a0knows best.<\/span><\/p>\n

Written by Alimah Sherbhanu Jadwat<\/span><\/p>\n

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/p>\n

Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n

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