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Answered by: Mufti Mohammed Dilwar Hussain<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Question:<\/strong><\/u><\/span><\/p>\n

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Please can you advise the best way to give a divorce? Do I need witnesses? Do I need to write this down?<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of <\/strong><\/u>All<\/strong><\/u><\/em>\u0101<\/strong><\/u><\/em>h<\/strong><\/u><\/em>, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/strong><\/u><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answer:<\/strong><\/u><\/span><\/p>\n

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I pray that All\u0101h Ta\u2019\u0101l\u0101<\/em> makes your affairs easier for you. If reconciliation is still possible then this is a step which is always promoted rather than rendering a Talaq<\/em>. Out of all the things which are permissible, Talaq<\/em> is the most despised in the sight of All\u0101h Ta\u2019\u0101l\u0101.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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Verbal <\/strong>Talaq<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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Uttering the words of Talaq<\/em> (divorce) fall under two categories; Sareeh<\/em> (clear wording) and Kinaya<\/em> (vague wording).<\/span><\/p>\n

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If clear wording is used, such as \u201cI divorce you\u201d or \u201cyou are divorced\u201d or \u201cI give you Talaq<\/em>\u201d whether they be said in person or not, via message, with witnesses present or not, etc. then this will cause talaq<\/em> (divorce) to occur immediately. The wife will then need to enter into iddah<\/em>. The inference of such wording would mean Talaq Raj\u2019i<\/em> will occur which would subsequently allow for reconciliation to take place within the iddah<\/em> period without the need of renewing the nikah<\/em>. Verbally uttering words or gesturing to her to return would be sufficient for the marriage to renew. Even looking at her with desire and lust would also have the same effect. [Al-Hidayah: vol. 2, pg. 380<\/em>] [1]<\/span><\/p>\n

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However, the use of vague wording where ambiguity remains (i.e., using such wording which would not normally infer to divorce) will require an intention of divorce to be present at the time of using such wordings. If an intention of divorce is not made at the time of using such wordings, then talaq<\/em> will not take place. Examples of such wordings would be, as you have said \u201cI free you,\u201d \u201cI release you,\u201d \u201cget out of here,\u201d \u201cI don\u2019t want to see you again\u201d and etc. [Al-Hid\u0101yah: vol. 2, pg. 391-392<\/em>] [2]<\/span><\/p>\n

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Simply uttering the words of Talaq<\/em> alone are not sufficient for Talaq<\/em> to take place. They need to be directed towards somebody, either by saying it directly to them or by mentioning the wife\u2019s name.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Legal\/Written <\/strong>Talaq<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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There is a Fiqhi<\/em> principle which determines that whatever is written will also stand in the place of verbal speech. It has two conditions; firstly, that what is written is apparent and admissible and; secondly, that it is written in an acceptable way which is common and amongst the norm of the time. The sender and recipient must also be noted clearly. [Al-Qaw<\/em>\u0101\u2019id ul-Fiqhiyah; pg. 52<\/em>] [3]<\/span><\/p>\n

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Number of <\/strong>Talaq<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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Furthermore, All\u0101h <\/em>Ta\u2019\u0101l\u0101<\/em> says in Surah Baqarah <\/em>[2:<\/em>229], that Talaq<\/em> (divorce) after which reconciliation can occur is twice. Uttering the words of divorce beyond this amount would render a marriage broken such that reconciliation can no longer occur. [4]<\/span><\/p>\n

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Talaq<\/strong><\/em> in Anger<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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The stages of anger have been broken down into 3 parts; a level of anger where one is in total control of what he is saying and doing. Secondly, a state of severe anger and distress but not to the extent of insanity where one still has some awareness of what is being said. Talaq<\/em> will occur in both these states. Thirdly, is to the extent of madness, where one blacks out and loses all sense of what is being said or done at that time. In this state, Talaq<\/em> does not occur.<\/span><\/p>\n

[Radd ul-Muht<\/em>\u0101<\/em>r: vol. 4, pg. 452<\/em>] [5]<\/span><\/p>\n

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Summary<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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It is preferable, just as you had two witnesses at the time of the Nikah<\/em> to also have two witnesses at the time of Talaq<\/em> aswell. But this is not necessary.<\/span><\/p>\n

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A single Talaq<\/em> will suffice. Do not make the mistake of giving multiple Talaq<\/em> in the same sitting.<\/span><\/p>\n

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One does the same job as three.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Avoid giving Talaq<\/em> while your wife is in Haydh<\/em> (menstruating). Rather delay giving Talaq<\/em> until she is clean and in a period of Tuhor<\/em> (non-menstruating days) which has been without any intimacy.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Only All\u0101h Ta\u2019\u0101l\u0101 <\/em>knows best.<\/span><\/p>\n

Written by Mufti Mohammed Dilwar Hussain<\/span><\/p>\n

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/p>\n

Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n

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