{"id":35251,"date":"2025-01-17T12:14:21","date_gmt":"2025-01-17T12:14:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/?p=35251"},"modified":"2025-01-17T12:14:21","modified_gmt":"2025-01-17T12:14:21","slug":"husband-saying-choir-dain-to-his-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/husband-saying-choir-dain-to-his-wife\/","title":{"rendered":"Husband Saying Choir Dain to His Wife"},"content":{"rendered":"

Fatwa ID: 07856<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answered by: Alimah Shireen Mangera-Badat<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Me and my wife was having an argument. She kept asking me “chor dain” (leave me) in urdu and i replied “if you want. You can have it”. I didnt mean any talaaq by these words. She didnt say “i want it” in response and i am not sure if she said “chor dain” (leave me) again in the setting after this. All i know is that i never intend to talaaq. by saying this “if you want. you can have it” my intent was to scare her and didnt really mean it. Maybe i wanted her to know that if she wants it then only i can give her that or maybe it meant khula but it was no where a conditional thing. There was no mention of divorce from my side in that chat. Please let me know if divorce can fall from this.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answer<\/u><\/strong>: <\/u><\/span><\/p>\n

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In Hanafi Fiqh, the validity of divorce (talaq<\/em>) depends on the explicitness of the words used, the intention behind them, and the clarity of the context.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Clear and explicit words like “I divorce you” (talaq<\/em>) or their equivalents in any language result in divorce, regardless of intent. The words “If you want, you can have it” are\u00a0not explicit words of divorce<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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If the words used are ambiguous (like “If you want, you can have it”), then the\u00a0intention<\/strong>\u00a0behind the words is crucial in determining whether talaq has occurred.[1]<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

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In your case, you explicitly stated that, you did not intend talaq<\/strong>, you claimed that your words were meant to “scare her” or convey frustration, not an actual divorce.[2]<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

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In summary, since you both were unclear on your intentions, and no clear intentional words were used for divorce, your divorce will not have taken place<\/span><\/p>\n

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Only Allah knows best.<\/span><\/p>\n

Written by Alimah Shireen Mangera-Badat<\/span><\/p>\n

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/p>\n

Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n

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