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Fatwa ID: 08466<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Written by Alimah Humairah Badshah<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Question:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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I want to marry this woman insha Allah, everything has gone well except for her relationship with her father. Due to a divorce from her mother and a remarriage, he avoids conversation with her apart from sending Islamic quotes on Whatsapp. She has tried for years prior to meeting me to reconcile the relationship with her father to no avail. But he continues to make it difficult and avoids her attempts to contact him. What should we do in this situation as her father must be present at a nikkah?<\/span><\/p>\n

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-She has 2 younger brothers who are slightly younger than her and are her only mehrams<\/span><\/p>\n

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– She is 23 yrs old<\/span><\/p>\n

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– In the past, other respected people from the community as well as social workers have tried to deal with the situation but there\u2019s been no progress.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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Answer:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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According to the opinion of the Hanafi madhab, it is not strictly necessary for a woman to have a wali for her marriage to be valid, although having a wali is certainly highly recommended. Ideally the husband would be someone who is Islamically compatible, although the opinion which is taken in the Hanafi madhab is that this is not necessary for the validity of the marriage. Therefore, her marriage would still be considered valid even if her father is not present.<\/span><\/p>\n

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While guardianship is not necessary, it would still be best for a woman\u2019s wali to be present and approve of the marriage. If a father refuses to act as a wali for his daughter in marriage, then it is agreed that guardianship transfers to the next closest relative. This would be her paternal grandfather. If he is also not a possibility, then the guardianship would go to the paternal great-grandfather and so on, and then to the full brothers. The full brothers are equal in this regard, and so either one can act as a wali.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Radd Al-Mukhtaar (Halabi ed., Daar Al-Fikr, https:\/\/shamela.ws) v.3 p.84<\/span><\/p>\n

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Radd Al-Mukhtaar (Halabi ed., Daar Al-Fikr, https:\/\/shamela.ws) v.3 p.57<\/span><\/p>\n

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Al-Fataawa Al-Hindiyyah (Daar Al-Fikr, https:\/\/shamela.ws) v.1 p.290<\/span><\/p>\n

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Badaai’ Al-Sanaai’ (Daar Al-Kutub Al-‘Ilmiyyah, https:\/\/shamela.ws) v.2 p.247<\/span><\/p>\n

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Al-Fataawa Al-Hindiyyah (Daar Al-Fikr, https:\/\/shamela.ws) v.1 p.285<\/span><\/p>\n

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Al-Fataawa Al-Hindiyyah (Daar Al-Fikr, https:\/\/shamela.ws) v.1 p.283<\/span><\/p>\n

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Al-Fataawa Al-Hindiyyah (Daar Al-Fikr, https:\/\/shamela.ws) v.1 p.284<\/span><\/p>\n

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Written by Alimah Humairah Badshah<\/span><\/p>\n

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/p>\n

Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/p>\n

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