{"id":6658,"date":"2013-06-22T16:15:01","date_gmt":"2013-06-22T16:15:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/?p=6658"},"modified":"2013-06-22T16:15:01","modified_gmt":"2013-06-22T16:15:01","slug":"would-saying-i-am-not-accepting-this-woman-constitute-acceptance-in-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/would-saying-i-am-not-accepting-this-woman-constitute-acceptance-in-marriage\/","title":{"rendered":"Would saying I am…NOT accepting this woman constitute acceptance in marriage"},"content":{"rendered":"

\n\tFatwa ID: 01301<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAnswered by <\/strong>Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tQuestion:<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tA few years ago i had problem with a family and i was not a very good muslim at that time. I was a muslim but I wasnt praying every day. This family had a daughter and i told them i will marry her.
\n\t So on the day of nikah when imam asked me "do you accept this woman". I replied "I am…" or "I'm" then there was a few minutes pause and I continued in saying "NOT accepting this woman". Then I walked off and havent spoken to that family or woman since then. I did this as a way of revenge to the family.
\n\t I know what I did was wrong and have made tauba to Allah. I wanted to know does this make that woman my wife? I am scared because of the hadith "three things done in jest are taken seriously, marriage, divorce and manumitting a slave". Because what I did was a kind of joke.
\n\t Because I said "I am" or "I'm" and then left a pause of few minutes before saying anything else, does that mean that I completed the statement of acceptance of this woman even though I did not complete the full sentence.
\n\t Or because I did not complete the whole sentence does it mean we are not married.
\n\t I really hope you can help me as soon as possible as I am really scared. I'm really sorry if I am annoying you brothers by asking.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAnswer:<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\t\"Bismillah\"<\/a>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tIn the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tA marriage can be executed by just two words, e.g. a person says the following words in the presence of witnesses: "I give my daughter to you in marriage." The person who is addressed replies: "I accept her in marriage." In so doing, the marriage is valid and both of them are lawful husband and wife.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tIf the daughter is present and the father says: "I give this daughter of mine in marriage to you", and the person replies: "I accept her", the nikah will be valid. It will not be necessary to mention her name.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tIf the girl is not present, it is necessary to mention her name and the name of her father in such a loud tone that all the witnesses are able to hear. If the people do not know the father and there is a strong possibility that by mentioning his name they will still not know whose nikah is being performed, then it will be necessary to mention the name of the grand-father as well.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tFurthermore, in order for a nikah to be valid, it is also essential for at least<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n