{"id":7405,"date":"2014-02-02T13:59:55","date_gmt":"2014-02-02T13:59:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/?p=7405"},"modified":"2014-02-02T13:59:55","modified_gmt":"2014-02-02T13:59:55","slug":"if-parents-are-against-the-marriage-and-istekhara-is-positive-should-i-marry-without-their-consent","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/if-parents-are-against-the-marriage-and-istekhara-is-positive-should-i-marry-without-their-consent\/","title":{"rendered":"If parents are against the marriage and istekhara is positive should I marry without their consent"},"content":{"rendered":"

\n\tFatwa ID: 01547<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAnswered by <\/strong>Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tQuestion:<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tIf parents are against the marriage and istekhara is positive should I marry without their consent? <\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAnswer:<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\t\"Bismillah\"<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tIn the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tI will begin answering your question by firstly mentioning the ruling of marrying without the parents consent and secondly some points regarding istikharah.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tThe initial view of the Hanafi school of thought was that the marriage of a free sane adult woman without the approval of her guardian is valid if the person she is marrying is a legal and suitable match for her in terms of their religion, independence, lineage and possession. If the person happens to be unsuitable for her in terms of the aforementioned categories then the marriage will be deemed invalid.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tHowever due to the corrupt nature of society today (Fasad-zaman), if a free, sane adult women gets married without her guardians consent, the marriage will be valid irrespective of whether the man is a suitable match for her or not. (Raddul-Muhtar p157v4)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAccording to the teachings of Imam Shafee, Imam Malik and Imam Ahmed bin Hanbal \"ra\u1e25imahull\u0101h it is necessary for a woman to seek permission from her guardian in order to get married.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\t“The Prophet of Allah \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu has said, “There is no marriage without the consent of the guardians.” (Sunan Abu Dawud P284v1 & Sunan Ibn Majah p135 v1)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tWith regards to istikharah Imam An-Nawawi has said, "After performing the istikharah, a person must do what he is wholeheartedly inclined to do and feels good about doing and should not insist on doing what he had desired to do before making the istikharah. And if his feelings change, he should leave what he had intended to do, otherwise he is not completely leaving the choice to Allah, and would not be honest in seeking aid from Allah's power and knowledge. Sincerity in seeking Allah's choice means that one should completely leave what he himself had desired or determined." (Fiqhus Sunnah: 2.32) After performing istikarah the person will (Insha Allah) get guidance from Allah and be inclined towards what is right. It is not necessary that it is seen in a dream or even as a vision while awake.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tLooking at your situation, if you have sincerely and correctly done the istikharah then the good feelings your getting may be from Allah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu and he is guiding you to the right decision. But, at the same time respecting and pleasing our parents are paramount. Therefore, my advice will be to speak to your parents about this proposal and explain to them the istikharah you performed. If Allah wills your parents will understand your feelings for this proposal and will give their blessings to it.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tBy all means try not to displease your parents by marrying without their happiness and consent even though as mentioned above the marriage will be done.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tSayyiduna Abu Bakrah \"ra\u1e0dyAll\u0101hu narrates that the Holy Prophet \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu said:<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAs for all those other sins, Allah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu defers whichever He wills up to the Last Day of Qiyamah – except the sin of depriving parents of their rights and disobeying them. The punishment for that is given, much before the Hereafter comes, right here in this world as well. [Bayhaqi, Shuab Al-Imaan]<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tOnly Allah Knows Best<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tMohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tDarul Ifta Birmingham.<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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