{"id":7759,"date":"2014-08-08T16:11:08","date_gmt":"2014-08-08T16:11:08","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/?p=7759"},"modified":"2014-08-08T16:11:08","modified_gmt":"2014-08-08T16:11:08","slug":"thinking-of-doing-a-secret-nikah","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/thinking-of-doing-a-secret-nikah\/","title":{"rendered":"Thinking of doing a secret nikah"},"content":{"rendered":"

\n\tFatwa ID: 01664<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAnswered by <\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tQuestion:<\/span><\/strong><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tThinking on doing a secret nikah.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\r\n Answer:<\/strong><\/pre>\n
\n\t\"Bismillah\"<\/a><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tFirstly, I would like to say that having any contact or relationship with a girl before marriage is strictly prohibited and unlawful in Islam. This is nothing but Satan trying to lead you astray. Allah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu has said, "Verily Satan is an enemy to you: so treat him as an enemy. He only invites his adherents, that they may become Companions of the Blazing Fire." (Surah Fatir v.6)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tIslam is a religion that instructs its followers to be moral and modest and does not allow its followers to tread the path of immorality and immodesty.  Allah enjoys on both males and females to restrain their eyes from looking at each other. “Enjoin the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their modesty… Likewise enjoin the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their modesty… (Surah An Nur: 30-31)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tAhadiths on the prohibition of men and women intermingling are many. Jarir ibn Abdullah narrates that I asked the Prophet \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu about the sudden glance (that is cast) on the face (of a non-Mahram). He commanded me that I should turn away my eyes. (Muslim, 1015)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tUqba bin Amir narrates that the Prophet \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu said, "Beware of entering upon the ladies." A man from the Ansar said, "Allah's Apostle! What about the in-laws of the wife?" The Prophet replied, “The in-laws of the wife are death itself." (Bukhari, Vol 7, 159)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tThe above verse of the Quran and the Ahadiths of the Prophet \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu indicate the importance of observing segregation and to refrain from intermingling. A person is instructed to turn the gaze away when a glance is cast on a non-Mahram accidentally let alone on an arranged meeting.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tIn another Hadith Ibn Abbas (radi allahu anhu) narrates that Abu Huraira \"ra\u1e0dyAll\u0101hu narrated from the Prophet \"\u1e63allall\u0101hu who said   "The adultery of the eyes is the sight (to gaze at a forbidden thing), the adultery of the tongue is the talk, and the inner self wishes and desires and the private parts testify all this or deny it." (Sahih Bukhari: 8.260)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tWith regards to your situation, I personally advise you to go about things in a correct manner. You must at once stop all informal communication with her. Perform the prayer of guidance (Salat al-Istikhara) and ask Allah to guide you. Speak to your parents about this issue and f they are happy then let someone from your family propose to the girl’s family on your behalf. If marriage with her is destined for you, you will marry her; otherwise Allah may choose someone better for you.  I would not advise you to perform a secret nikah without going through the aforementioned alternative.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tOnly Allah Knows Best<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tMohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n
\n\tDarul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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