{"id":8325,"date":"2016-03-17T17:23:49","date_gmt":"2016-03-17T17:23:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/?p=8325"},"modified":"2016-03-17T17:23:49","modified_gmt":"2016-03-17T17:23:49","slug":"can-i-stop-my-husband-from-having-relations-with-me-in-this-situation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/can-i-stop-my-husband-from-having-relations-with-me-in-this-situation\/","title":{"rendered":"Can I stop my husband from having relations with me in this situation"},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: right;\">\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\"><strong>Fatwa ID: 01871<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\"><strong>Answered by&nbsp;<\/strong>Mufti&nbsp;Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\"><strong>Question:<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">Thank you for replying my question earlier, as i told you that my husband is converted from Hindu to Islam my question is<br \/>\n\t1. My In Laws are not aware of this and my husband who has been married to me works on ship and this time he wants to share this conversion with his parents can u suggest some dua or wazifa, so that he can pray to Allahtala and show his courage of sharing this news with his parents.<br \/>\n\t2. As you know my Husband has committed Adultery and now he is very much guilty in front of Allahtala and he always says me that he is been asking for forgiveness from Allahtala, as i have forgiven him because he has assured me that it was a mistake and will not be repeated but from 7 months i m not allowing him to have relation with me because he has committed a sin. So can i give his all rights back because i get afraid if Allahtala gets angry with me if i have relation with him. Please suggest or advise me.<br \/>\n\t3. Also please suggest some dua or wazifa that i can read for my relationship and make my easy to tackle this problem.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\"><strong>Answer:<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<a href=\"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/Bismillah.jpg\" rel=\"\" target=\"\" title=\"\"><img loading=\"lazy\" alt=\"Bismillah\" height=\"50\" src=\"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/06\/Bismillah.jpg\" title=\"\" width=\"267\" \/><\/a>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">Your husband should read the following dua when he goes to inform his parents of his conversion to Islam.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">&ldquo;O Allah! Nothing is easy except that which You make easy, and it is only You who can, if You will, if You will, turn grief and difficulties easy.&rdquo;<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">Both the couple should read the following dua for a happy and peaceful marriage.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.&quot; (Surah Furqan v.74)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">If your husband has repented then you should allow him to have relations with you. In Islam a man is entitled to have relations with his wife unless the wife is in her periods or physically unable to have relations or just emotionally drained out, in which case she does not have to comply with her husband&rsquo;s demands. Also it does not mean that a husband can violently and forcefully have sexual relations with the wife. (Badaaius Sanai p.331 v.2)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">It will be considered a sin on behalf of the wife not to have intercourse with the husband without one of the aforementioned reasons.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">It is narrated by Saaiduna Abu Hurairah <img title=\"ra\u1e0dyAll\u0101hu 'anhu (may All\u0101h be pleased with him)\" alt=\"ra\u1e0dyAll\u0101hu 'anhu (may All\u0101h be pleased with him)\" class=\"islamic_graphic\" src=\"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/wp-content\/plugins\/islamic-graphics\/img\/black\/20\/ranhu.png\" height=\"12px\"> that the Prophet of Allah <img title=\"\u1e63allall\u0101hu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of All\u0101h be upon him)\" alt=\"\u1e63allall\u0101hu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of All\u0101h be upon him)\" class=\"islamic_graphic\" src=\"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/wp-content\/plugins\/islamic-graphics\/img\/black\/20\/saw.png\" height=\"12px\">] said, &ldquo;When a man calls his wife to his bed and she refuses, and then he sleeps being angry, the angels curse her until morning.&rdquo; (Sahih Bukhari &amp; Sahih Muslim)<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">Only Allah Knows Best<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n<p>\n\t<span style=\"color:#000000;\"><span style=\"font-size:14px;\"><span style=\"font-family:verdana,geneva,sans-serif;\">Darul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Fatwa ID: 01871 Answered by&nbsp;Mufti&nbsp;Mohammed Tosir Miah Question: Thank you for replying my question earlier, as i told you that my husband is converted from&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[11],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8325"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8325"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8325\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8325"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8325"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8325"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}