{"id":8650,"date":"2016-11-05T19:25:47","date_gmt":"2016-11-05T19:25:47","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/?p=8650"},"modified":"2016-11-05T19:26:06","modified_gmt":"2016-11-05T19:26:06","slug":"should-i-get-married-to-a-person-who-i-dont-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/daruliftabirmingham.co.uk\/home\/should-i-get-married-to-a-person-who-i-dont-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Should I get married to a person who I don\u2019t love"},"content":{"rendered":"

\n\tFatwa ID: 02002<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAnswered by <\/strong>Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tQuestion:<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tRespected Mufti, I'd like to ask you an opinion about a personal matter.  <\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tI have a problem with my family. I'm a reverted Muslim but my family is not Muslim. They don't like Islam, especially my mother. She knows that I have Muslim friends and I'm studying Arabic language and Islamic things but she doesn't know I reverted to Islam. <\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tI can't pray salah in time because I don't have a room where I can pray. I have to wait everyone is sleeping in order to pray salah.  I'm very sad with my situation.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tI'm trying to find a solution, so I met a good Muslim brother. I thought if I marry him I'll be able to live an Islamic life. This brother is good-tempered, practicing the Sunnah, has a strong Iman and he likes me. But unfortunately, I don't return his feelings. I told him the truth about my feelings and I asked my friends what I have to do. All my (Muslims) friends suggested me to don't marry him if I don't feel sure with this marriage.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tThe night when I made Istikhara, I had very bad dreams. I thought it was a sign that I can't marry him but this brother told me maybe it was a sign of shaytan. My hearth and my friends is telling me to stay at home although I live in a difficult situation but this brother is trying to persuade me that marrying him is the best solution. I'm very afraid of marry someone who I don't like but I'm also afraid of loosing my faith.  <\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tWhat I have to do? It is compulsory or recommended to marry him in my situation? It's better to be sure regarding marriage? If my heart is telling me that he is not the right husband, this suggestion is from shaytan?<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAnswer:<\/strong><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\t\"Bismillah\"<\/a>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tMarriage is a Sunnah of the Prophet of Allah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu and a form of worship.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tThe Prophet of Allah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu has said: “Nikah (marriage) is my Sunnah.” (Sunan-Tirmizi)<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tIn another Hadith the Prophet of Allah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu has said: “In the fulfilling of your sexual desires there is a sadaqah. The Sahabah (RA) asked, “If one of us fulfils his desires will he have a reward in it?” The Prophet of Allah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu replied, “Tell me if he were to fulfil his desires in a haram way would he be sinful? So accordingly when he fulfils his desires in a halal way there is reward for him.” (Sahih Muslim)<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAllah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu has described marriage through the following words:<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\t“They are libas (concealment) for you and you are libas for them.” (Surah Baqarah V 187)<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tAllah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu used the following words to describe marriage as the same as wearing ones clothes to protect one from the cold and heat; similarly marriage is a means of safeguarding oneself from sins. Also marriage provides peace and tranquillity to the heart and there is a physical bond between the husband and wife the same way ones clothes is closely attached to a person.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\t(Tafsir-Qurtubi P209 v2)<\/em><\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tFrom this we can understand that marriage not only is a means of fulfilling ones carnal desires but also is a form of worship.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tFor a person to achieve peace and tranquillity from marriage it is very important that one finds the right partner.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tIslam views marriage a life time relationship and not a short term fix to a difficult situation your facing at home. Therefore, my advice will be that it would be best that you don’t go ahead with this proposal and Insha Allah; Allah \"sub\u1e25\u0101nahu will find someone else for you.<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tOnly Allah Knows Best<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tMohammed Tosir Miah<\/span><\/span><\/span>\n<\/p>\n

\n\tDarul Ifta Birmingham<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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