Fatwa ID: 08356

 

 

Answered by: Alimah Maryam Badshah 

 

Question:

 

I am seeking Islamic guidance regarding a divorce situation that occurred recently, and I would be very grateful for your advice.

 

I have been married for about three months after my Nikaah, but my husband and I have not yet started living together (our Walima has not taken place). Recently, we had an argument, and during this argument, I was very upset and repeatedly pressured my husband to give me a divorce. He initially refused, but because I kept insisting, he eventually lost control and, in anger, said “divorce” three times.

 

 

Key Details of the Situation:

• I was the one who kept pushing for divorce, and he was refusing at first.
• After constant pressure, he finally said “I divorce you” three times in frustration.
• He was angry, but I do not know if he was so angry that he lost full awareness.
• After calming down, he regretted it and now says the divorce should not count because it was said under anger and pressure.

 

I kindly request your Islamic ruling on the following:

1. Does this divorce count as final and binding, or is there room for reconciliation?
2. Since I was the one insisting on divorce, does that change the ruling?
3. If this divorce is valid, what are my obligations now (e.g., ‘Iddah period, separation procedures, etc.)?

 

 

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful

 

Answer:

 

Unfortunately, you and your husband are now divorced irrevocably with the three statements of divorce. The statement “I divorce you” is a clear, unambiguous announcement of divorce and therefore his intention is not taken into account. By nature, divorce is said in anger and would therefore not have any effect on the validity of his statements, and neither would you verbally pressuring or insisting on a divorce.

 

By using words of divorce three times, your husband is now haram upon you, with no room for reconciliation. He is not allowed to remarry you until after you have entered a genuine marriage with a different husband and then that marriage naturally ends in divorce. Your ‘iddah period would have started from the moment he uttered the third divorce, however, there is no iddah for a person who has not consummated their marriage or been in a valid seclusion (a situation where consummation could have occurred). If ‘iddah is due, it would last for three menstrual cycles and you would be due housing and maintenance during this period.

 

 

References:

 

فَصْلٌ فِيمَنْ يَقَعُ طَلَاقُهُ وَفِيمَنْ لَا يَقَعُ طَلَاقُهُ) يَقَعُ طَلَاقُ كُلِّ زَوْجٍ إذَا كَانَ بَالِغًا عَاقِلًا سَوَاءٌ كَانَ حُرًّا أَوْ عَبْدًا طَائِعًا أَوْ مُكْرَهًا

 

Al-Fatāwa al-Hindiyyah (Vol.1, pg.353, Dār Al-Fiqr)

 

مِنْ أَنَّ الصَّرِيحَ مَا لَا يَحْتَاجُ إلَى نِيَّةٍ بَائِنًا كَانَ الْوَاقِعُ بِهِ أَوْ رَجْعِيًّا خَاصٌّ بِالصَّرِيحِ فِي الْجُمْلَةِ الْأُولَى: أَعْنِي قَوْلَهُمْ الصَّرِيحُ يَلْحَقُ الصَّرِيحَ وَالْبَائِنَ

 

Raddul Muhtār (Vol.3, pg.308, Dār Al-Fiqr)

 

(وَأَمَّا الْبِدْعِيُّ) فَنَوْعَانِ بِدْعِيٌّ لِمَعْنًى يَعُودُ إلَى الْعَدَدِ وَبِدْعِيٌّ لِمَعْنًى يَعُودُ إلَى الْوَقْتِ (فَاَلَّذِي) يَعُودُ إلَى الْعَدَدِ أَنْ يُطَلِّقَهَا ثَلَاثًا فِي طُهْرٍ وَاحِدٍ أَوْ بِكَلِمَاتٍ مُتَفَرِّقَةٍ أَوْ يَجْمَعُ بَيْنَ التَّطْلِيقَتَيْنِ فِي طُهْرٍ وَاحِدٍ بِكَلِمَةٍ وَاحِدَةٍ أَوْ بِكَلِمَتَيْنِ مُتَفَرِّقَتَيْنِ فَإِذَا فَعَلَ ذَلِكَ وَقَعَ الطَّلَاقُ وَكَانَ عَاصِيًا.

 

Al-Fatāwa al-Hindiyyah (Vol.1, pg.349, Dār Al-Fiqr)

 

(الْفَصْلُ الْأَوَّلُ فِي الطَّلَاقِ الصَّرِيحِ) . وَهُوَ كَأَنْتِ طَالِقٌ وَمُطَلَّقَةٌ وَطَلَّقْتُك وَتَقَعُ وَاحِدَةٌ رَجْعِيَّةٌ وَإِنْ نَوَى الْأَكْثَرَ أَوْ الْإِبَانَةَ أَوْ لَمْ يَنْوِ شَيْئًا

 

Al-Fatāwa al-Hindiyyah (Vol.1, pg.354, Dār Al-Fiqr)

 

(الْفَصْلُ الرَّابِعُ فِي الطَّلَاقِ قَبْلَ الدُّخُولِ) إذَا طَلَّقَ الرَّجُلُ امْرَأَتَهُ ثَلَاثًا قَبْلَ الدُّخُولِ بِهَا وَقَعْنَ عَلَيْهَا فَإِنْ فَرَّقَ الطَّلَاقَ بَانَتْ بِالْأُولَى وَلَمْ تَقَعْ الثَّانِيَةُ وَالثَّالِثَةُ وَذَلِكَ مِثْلُ أَنْ يَقُولَ أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ طَالِقٌ طَالِقٌ وَكَذَا إذَا قَالَ أَنْتِ طَالِقٌ وَاحِدَةً وَوَاحِدَةً وَقَعَتْ وَاحِدَةٌ

 

Al-Fatāwa al-Hindiyyah (Vol.1, pg.373, Dār Al-Fiqr)

 

أَرْبَعٌ مِنْ النِّسَاءِ لَا عِدَّةَ عَلَيْهِنَّ: الْمُطَلَّقَةُ قَبْلَ الدُّخُولِ…

إذَا طَلَّقَ الرَّجُلُ امْرَأَتَهُ طَلَاقًا بَائِنًا أَوْ رَجْعِيًّا أَوْ ثَلَاثًا أَوْ وَقَعَتْ الْفُرْقَةُ بَيْنَهُمَا بِغَيْرِ طَلَاقٍ وَهِيَ حُرَّةٌ مِمَّنْ تَحِيضُ فَعِدَّتُهَا ثَلَاثَةُ أَقْرَاءٍ سَوَاءٌ كَانَتْ الْحُرَّةُ مُسْلِمَةً أَوْ كِتَابِيَّةً

 

Al-Fatāwa al-Hindiyyah (Vol.1, pg.526, Dār Al-Fiqr)

 

الْمُعْتَدَّةُ عَنْ الطَّلَاقِ تَسْتَحِقُّ النَّفَقَةَ وَالسُّكْنَى كَانَ الطَّلَاقُ رَجْعِيًّا أَوْ بَائِنًا، أَوْ ثَلَاثًا حَامِلًا كَانَتْ الْمَرْأَةُ، أَوْ لَمْ تَكُنْ

 

Al-Fatāwa al-Hindiyyah (Vol.1, pg.557, Dār Al-Fiqr)

 

 

Only Allah (عز و جل) knows best.

Written by Alimah Maryam Badshah

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

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