Fatwa ID: 09138
Answered by Muftiyah Maryam Badshah
Question:
Assalamu Alaikum, I am 16 and will be forced by parents attend a mehndi event where there will be qawwali with musical instruments and free mixing.
Is it permissible for me to attend or will I at least not be sinful due to parental pressure? Please advise according to Quran/Sunnah and scholarly opinion.
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Answer:
The Prophet ﷺ has said: “There is no obedience to any human being if it involves disobedience to Allah.” (Ahmad) [1]
One should always keep in mind that there is no obedience to the creation when it concerns disobedience to Allah ﷻ. When a person is aware that impermissible activities are taking place at a generic event they have been invited to, if they are a person of influence, they must decline as attending will result in endorsing their activities. If an individual is not a person of influence, they should still avoid the gathering. However, if they are unable to do so, there is no harm in simply eating at the event and then taking their leave, avoiding the areas where sin takes place when they can. They should also aim to prevent these activities from taking place at the event if they are able to.[2]
Whilst it may cause dissatisfaction for your family and relatives, obeying Allah ﷻ has greater priority. Instead, gently explain the purpose of the prohibition, as well as discussing alternatives. Have trust in Allah ﷻ and make abundant du’a for ease and relief from the situation you are in.
“And your Lord has decreed that you worship none except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or both of them reach old age [while] with you, say not to them “uff,” and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word.” Surah Al-Isra’ (17:23) [3]
Only Allah ﷻ knows best.
Written by Muftiyah Maryam Badshah
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
References:
[1]
حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ، حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ، عَنْ زُبَيْدٍ، عَنْ سَعْدِ بْنِ عُبَيْدَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ، عَنْ عَلِيٍّ، رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهُ عَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ لَا طَاعَةَ لِبَشَرٍ فِي مَعْصِيَةِ اللَّهِ.
Musnad Ahmad 1065 (Bk.5, sunnah.com)
[2]
وَاخْتُلِفَ فِي إجَابَةِ الدَّعْوَةِ قَالَ بَعْضُهُمْ وَاجِبَةٌ لَا يَسَعُ تَرْكُهَا وَقَالَتْ الْعَامَّةُ هِيَ سُنَّةٌ وَالْأَفْضَلُ أَنْ يُجِيبَ إذَا كَانَتْ وَلِيمَةً وَإِلَّا فَهُوَ مُخَيَّرٌ وَالْإِجَابَةُ أَفْضَلُ؛ لِأَنَّ فِيهَا إدْخَالَ السُّرُورِ فِي قَلْبِ الْمُؤْمِنِ، كَذَا فِي التُّمُرْتَاشِيِّ
وَلَوْ دُعِيَ إلَى دَعْوَةٍ فَالْوَاجِبُ أَنْ يُجِيبَهُ إلَى ذَلِكَ، وَإِنَّمَا يَجِبُ عَلَيْهِ أَنْ يُجِيبَهُ إذَا لَمْ يَكُنْ هُنَاكَ مَعْصِيَةٌ، وَلَا بِدْعَةٌ، وَإِنْ لَمْ يُجِبْهُ كَانَ عَاصِيًا وَالِامْتِنَاعُ أَسْلَمُ فِي زَمَانِنَا إلَّا إذَا عَلِمَ يَقِينًا بِأَنَّهُ لَيْسَ فِيهَا بِدْعَةٌ، وَلَا مَعْصِيَةٌ كَذَا فِي الْيَنَابِيعِ…
لَا يَنْبَغِي التَّخَلُّفُ عَنْ إجَابَةِ الدَّعْوَةِ الْعَامَّةِ كَدَعْوَةِ الْعُرْسِ وَالْخِتَانِ وَنَحْوِهِمَا، وَإِذَا أَجَابَ، فَقَدْ فَعَلَ مَا عَلَيْهِ أَكَلَ أَوْ لَمْ يَأْكُلْ، وَإِنْ لَمْ يَأْكُلْ فَلَا بَأْسَ بِهِ وَالْأَفْضَلُ أَنْ يَأْكُلَ لَوْ كَانَ غَيْرَ صَائِمٍ، كَذَا فِي الْخُلَاصَةِ
مَنْ دُعِيَ إلَى وَلِيمَةٍ فَوَجَدَ ثَمَّةَ لَعِبًا أَوْ غِنَاءً فَلَا بَأْسَ أَنْ يَقْعُدَ وَيَأْكُلَ، فَإِنْ قَدَرَ عَلَى الْمَنْعِ يَمْنَعُهُمْ، وَإِنْ لَمْ يَقْدِرْ يَصْبِرْ وَهَذَا إذَا لَمْ يَكُنْ مُقْتَدَى بِهِ أَمَّا إذَا كَانَ، وَلَمْ يَقْدِرْ عَلَى مَنْعِهِمْ، فَإِنَّهُ يَخْرُجُ، وَلَا يَقْعُدُ، وَلَوْ كَانَ ذَلِكَ عَلَى الْمَائِدَةِ لَا يَنْبَغِي أَنْ يَقْعُدَ، وَإِنْ لَمْ يَكُنْ مُقْتَدًى بِهِ وَهَذَا كُلُّهُ بَعْدَ الْحُضُورِ، وَأَمَّا إذَا عَلِمَ قَبْلَ الْحُضُورِ فَلَا يَحْضُرُ؛ لِأَنَّهُ لَا يَلْزَمُهُ حَقُّ الدَّعْوَةِ بِخِلَافِ مَا إذَا هَجَمَ عَلَيْهِ؛ لِأَنَّهُ قَدْ لَزِمَهُ، كَذَا فِي السِّرَاجِ الْوَهَّاجِ وَإِنْ عَلِمَ الْمُقْتَدَى بِهِ بِذَلِكَ قَبْلَ الدُّخُولِ، وَهُوَ مُحْتَرَمٌ يَعْلَمُ أَنَّهُ لَوْ دَخَلَ يَتْرُكُونَ ذَلِكَ فَعَلَيْهِ أَنْ يَدْخُلَ وَإِلَّا لَمْ يَدْخُلْ، كَذَا فِي التُّمُرْتَاشِيِّ
Al-Fatāwa al-Hindiyyah (Vol.5, pg.343, Dār Al-Fiqr)
[3]
وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا ۚ إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا
Qur’an (17:23)