Fatwa ID: 03207

Answered by: Alimah Nasima Umm Hamza​

Question

What is the way of Sunnah to spend the first night with the wife?

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمنِ الرَّحِيْم

In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful 

Answer:

i) You should read the following dua upon meeting after the nikah-

اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ خَيْرِهَا وَخَيْرِ مَا جُبِلَتْ عَلَيْهِ وَأَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنْ شَرِّهَا وَشَرِّ مَا جُبِلَتْ عَلَيْهِ

“O Allah, I ask You for the goodness within her and the goodness that she is inclined towards, and I seek refuge with you from the evil to which she is inclined.”

It was narrated from 'Abdullah bin 'Amr that the Prophet said:

“When anyone of you gets a new wife, a servant, or an animal, let him take hold of the forelock and say: Allahumma inni as`aluka min khayriha wa khayri ma jubilat 'alaihi, wa 'audhu bika min sharriha wa sharri ma jubilat `alaih .' ” [1]

ii) There are some traditions from the sahabah, encouraging praying two rakaat together and making dua for a successful marriage.

iii) When the spouses have intercourse, they should begin with the following dua-

بِاسْمِ اللَّهِ اللَّهُمَّ جَنِّبْنَا الشَّيْطَانَ وَجَنِّبِ الشَّيْطَانَ مَا رَزَقْتَنَا

“Oh Allah protect us against Satan and keep away the Satan from the one that you have bestowed upon us.”

This is due to Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) saying:

If anyone amongst you intends to go to his wife he should say: In the name of Allah,0 Allah protect us against Satan and keep away the Satan from the one that you have bestowed upon us, and if He has ordained a male child for them, Satan will never be able to do any harm to him. [2]

Only Allah Knows Best

Answered By Alimah Nasima Umm Hamza

Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah

Darul Ifta Birmingham

[1] Sunan Ibn Majah, Book 9, Hadith Number 1993

[2] Sahih Bukhari, Hadith Number 1434