Fatwa ID: 04989
Answered by: Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
I want to ask a question regarding the sexual massage I give to my wife for intimacy. In the sexual massage, I massage my wife’s full body including private parts and I stimulate her using my fingers. Is it allowed in Islam to have such an intimacy with your wife?
In the name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.
Massaging and caressing each other’s bodies is a good and effective way of achieving sexual desires. It is permissible to touch all areas of each other’s body.
It is permissible to touch, stroke, and fondle the genitals of one’s spouse. All these falls under the act of foreplay, which is an important part of sexual intercourse. Imam Ibn Qayim (RA) mentions that Saaiduna Jabir Ibn Abdullah Radiallahu Anhu is reported to have said, “The Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam forbade from engaging in sex before foreplay.” (Al-Tibb Nabawi p.181)
Saaiduna Anas Ibn Malik Radiallahu narrates that the Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam said ‘none of you would come to his wife like an animal; but rather there should be between them a messenger. It was said, “What is the messenger O Prophet of Allah?” He replied “Kissing and words” ’ (Imam Ghazali in his Ihya Ulumud Din and Imam Daylami in his Musnadul Firdaws)
It is stated in Fatawa Hindiyyah that Imam Abu Yusuf (RA) said ‘ “I asked Imam Abu Hanifa (RA) regarding a man who strokes his wife’s vagina and she strokes his penis in order that he gets an erection, do you see any wrong in that?” He replied, “No, rather I am confident that one will be rewarded for doing so.” ’ (Fatawa Hindiyyah p.328 v.5)
Moreover, it is permissible for the husband to insert his fingers in his wife’s vagina so that she may reach orgasm and likewise for the wife to use her hands to masturbate her husband. (Raddul Muhtar p.371 v.3)
Only Allah Knows Best
Written by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham