|Marrying a widow
In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful.
It is more preferable to marry a virgin as she can be easily moulded and is more cooperating. She is contented with a little and is grateful and she will love her husband passionately. (Mazahirul Haqq p.15 v.4)
The Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam said; “You should marry virgin ladies as they are sweet in speech and bearer of more children and they feel contented with a little.” (Mishkaatul Masaabeeh p.267)
Imam Nawai (RA) says; “It is preferable to marry a young lady as the purposes of marriage can be best achieved through it. She affords pleasure and her fragrance is sweet. She is more exciting and pleasing and beautiful to look at. She is buoyant and jovial, elegant in appearance and delicate in touching. A husband can easily mould her as he desires.”
However, this does not mean that it is not permissible to marry widows but if the woman is virtuous and a person desires to marry a widow then he can. Most of the wives of the Prophet of Allah Sallallahu Alahi Wasalam and the companion’s were widows.
Only Allah Knows Best
Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham.