Fatwa ID: 07969
Answered by Alimah Shireen Mangera-Badat
Question:
I am a female in my 20s. I would like to go for Hajj this year and الحمدلله حمداً كثيراً، I have the means to do so.
I could also pay for one mahram to come with me.
My dad doesn’t want to come this year, as he has a project that he is in the middle of.
I don’t want to annoy him, but also I need to do my Hajj. I’ve not yet completed the obligation. Is it okay for me to try persuading him to accompany me, even if he finds me mentioning Hajj annoying?
In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Answer:
The Quran has clearly stated and has pointed out the necessity of performing the hajj if you are able.
“Commitment to˺ pilgrimage is made in appointed months.1 Whoever commits to ˹performing˺ pilgrimage, let them stay away from intimate relations, foul language, and arguments during pilgrimage. Whatever good you do, Allah ˹fully˺ knows of it. Take ˹necessary˺ provisions ˹for the journey˺—surely the best provision is righteousness. And be mindful of Me, O people of reason! (Surah Baqarah:197).[1]
Hajj has become compulsory on you since you have the means.
Though[2] your father is not persuaded currently it would be wise that you try and convince him now to go with you to act as your mahram, as is recommended by the Hanafi Fiqh to undertake a journey with a mahram.
Therefore, try and convince him to undertake this journey with you as part your fulfilment of deen or if you have another mahram you can undertake the journey with him to complete the Hajj.
Only Allah knows best.
Written by Alimah Shireen Mangera-Badat
Checked and approved by Mufti Mohammed Tosir Miah
Darul Ifta Birmingham
[1] ٱلْحَجُّ أَشْهُرٌۭ مَّعْلُومَـٰتٌۭ ۚ فَمَن فَرَضَ فِيهِنَّ ٱلْحَجَّ فَلَا رَفَثَ وَلَا فُسُوقَ وَلَا جِدَالَ فِى ٱلْحَجِّ ۗ وَمَا تَفْعَلُوا۟ مِنْ خَيْرٍۢ يَعْلَمْهُ ٱللَّهُ ۗ وَتَزَوَّدُوا۟ فَإِنَّ خَيْرَ ٱلزَّادِ ٱلتَّقْوَىٰ ۚ وَٱتَّقُونِ يَـٰٓأُو۟لِى ٱلْأَلْبَـٰبِ
[2] وعن ابن عباس رضي الله عنهما أنه سمع النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول: ”لا يخلون رجل بامرأة إلا ومعها ذو محرم، ولا تسافر المرأة إلا مع ذي محرم“ فقال له رجل: يا رسول الله إن امرأتي خرجت حاجّة، وإني اكتتبت في غزوة كذا وكذا؟ قال: ”انطلق فحج مع امرأتك” ((متفق عليه)).
Riyad as-Salihin 990
